Is my girlfreind to controlling?

Question

my girlfreind makes good money and I am currently unemployed. I do all of the housework and shopping. She keeps getting more bossy and tells what to do all the time. Get me a drink, go to the store, go get the mail. Recently she told me that she wears the pants and I should be wearing the panties. When I argue with her she says go ahead and leave but I dont have anywhere to go. I like my girlfreind but dont know how to deal with this. What should I do?

Answer 1

put on the panties have fun!!!!

Answer 2

ok well get off ur *** and get a job if u dont really make an effort she isnt going to respect u. Number two well shes just tired thts why she is asking u to get her a drink shes buggered. Number three she does wear the pants in the house im sorry to say. Who spoils who??? she spoils u because she can afford to. And she really is losing respect for u because u havent bothered to get a job to support her financially and it is the males role to bring the dough home and maintain the financial foundation. The woman contributes by working to lift the strain. In this case its the other way around and thts fine due to the modern world but are u contributing?? im sorry to say tht if u dont get a job soon she will most deffinately drop u.

Answer 3

get a job or leave. Easy to solve. Since you are home and not doing anything AND you are using her money you should clean up and run to the store for stuff. But her comment was a little mean about the panties though that would be real hot *wink* Tell her that her comments are mean and hurtful. But you should get a job asap or you will be her B i T c H

scrub that floor s l u t!! and now make me dinner

Answer 4

You need to get your word out. You are drowning in this relationship. She should not have control of you. Nobody should wear the pants. You should each share one leg, together making the pants. Notice the operative word being TOGETHER. If you try to talk to her and she just doesn't care then she is sadly using her. There are too many girls like this. Make sure you both aren't using each other. You may like her, but doing those things out of like dont usually happen. She wants to feel powerful and make you jealous because she has the money and you have nothing. Well listen up, you have your dignity, your morals, and your decision whether to be with her. She just doesn't know it yet. Just try not to get too stuck in this relationship (which is spiraling downward) until you get to the point where you would break up but its easier to stay together.

Answer 5

It's great that your girl is a strong independent woman. But for you young man, you need to have a little more respect for yourself. You sound young, healthy enough if you're doing housework and all, but you need to take steps to improve your future or this girl will never take you seriously. Go to school, or if you already have, dedicate yourself full time to finding a real job and not to wearing this girl's panties.

Answer 6

She's either controlling or she resents the fact that you are not working. Although she should appreciate everything you are doing to help out and she shouldn't tell you what to do she should ask. So either get a job or don't get a job and explain to her that you would appreciate that she would take into consideration what you do and act a little nicer.

Answer 7

I would suggest that you get a job and leave. She is right. As long as she
pays the bills and you live their rent free and without sharing the bills, she
IS the boss. It is obvious that she resents the situation, as do you. This does
not make for a happy ending.

Answer 8

She is really damaged goods. Because she makes good money, she rubs your nose in it all the time and treats you like dirt. It's not simply that a problem exists, but she is saying that you are a problem. She shames you mercilessly and demeans you as well. In a very short time you will die from emotional homicide.

Answer 9

luk...whatever u said about 'u like ur gf n all' very well....m sure she likes U 2....but dude her behaviour...isnt gud 2 ua...if she behaves like this once in a blue moon n all then its fine coz everybody gets outta her mind n says stuffs which hurt ....to r loved once....[It happened with me all the time....]..but my loved once understands that i dont mean it at all....
So now if shez rude like this u shud like plz give her some hints that u dnt like it although....she doesnt mean it. But if shez that way most of the time then...I got 1 Q...HAV U FORGOTEN THAT U HAV SELF-RESPECT?.....if u dnt like it .....GO TELL HER THAT.....n if she really loves u she will B sry...N will mind her toung from the next time......
good luck

Answer 10

you're lazy. she's making all the money and waking up every morning just to go to work and you're complaining about shopping and doing things for her? she shouldnt even have to ask or tell you to do it. you should just do it.
if i was her i would have dumped you a long time ago.
no wonder you don't have a job. you're LAZYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY.

you seem to have no respect for yourself since you're not out there looking for a job. in addition to complaining about little things like shopping(who pays for everything). you have no respect for her cause you're spending her money. and she has no respect for you since u stay home all day complaining. she should dump you soon before she loses respect for herself for dating someone like you.

sorry to be harsh but you asked

Answer 11

damn she just does not respect you. Awww i feel badly for you. Unfortunately, you will have to man-up for her to see you in a different light. Get out there on your own. If you dont have kids, I dont see the problem with you. Dont allow abuse. She is doing it because she can. So prove her wrong..