I told myself not to fall for him because I could tell he knew he was good looking & charming.he courted me & I couldn't help it. He seemed genuine once I got to kno him we became friends and went out a few times.anyways we eventually slept together (after 7 months of talking/hangin) He didn't think his performance was up to par & put himself down as soon as we were done it was kind of odd, I wasn't sure how to react but i responded the best i could(he had some probs). I didn't think it would go far (he's 21, I'm 19, 2 diff college lifes) but after we slept together he ignored my phone calls...threw a party & didn't invite me It's been a little over a week & i've only called him 2 (to insure him i didn't care bout his prob) but he's not called me & I'm still upset.are guys really that sensitve to "poor" performance? i have a feeling this is a patteren 4 him w/ women. if i dont call mayb he'll think 2's bout how he treated me, but im dumbfounded & cant decide if a want a friendship.
2007-02-15 18:15:32 · 13 answers · asked by Jessica C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds as though he is embarrassed. You don't say what the problem was, but I am sure with a little patience you can get him to talk to you again, and you can reassure him,.
2007-02-15 18:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys are sensitive when it comes to their "fellow", sex and their performance. The worst thing a girl can do making a 'funny' remark about the above, as they will probably not find it so funny. But than again, you never made such remark so that is not something you can be blamed for.
I think - but I can be wrong - that he is not interested anymore. It sounds very harsh, I know. Just read what you have written: he does not invite you, he ignores you, he does not return your calls, he does not reply to yout texts, ... Sounds like he is not to keen. Do not blame it on you though. Qte a few men have the tendency to ditch the girl from the moment they have slept with her. It is like they think " Got the trophee, let's go hunt some more."
On the other hand, maybe he is insecure and has truble facing you as he think he is rubbish in bed.
My suggestion? Ask him whether he is interest or not. It saves you a lot of time worrying. Which is, in the end, wasted time.
2007-02-16 02:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by MM 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont bother trust me. I bet u feel like an idiot right now or even desperate. Ur not okay but its true guys are really sensitive and maybe hes the type of guy who is only into one night stands and it didnt work to plan, u see. Or maybe he knows there will be alot of tension on tht subject etc. So how bout u dont fret. He is ok he is over it if he was really into u he would have called u. Just let things rest for a while if he rings he rings if he doesnt he aint worth the time or analysing.
2007-02-16 02:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes men can feel bad if not up to PAR, but I think there may be more to this than you are aware of, talk to him, write him a letter of email him but don't push too hard if you really care if he wants to sort it out he can but eventually it is down to him, Good Luck I hope you work things out
2007-02-20 11:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by decrepid1958 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh Jessica! Dump him! There is a lot more to you than that! He won his prize and has moved on! The performance angle was just that. Look for someone with morsubstance. When I make love it is with passion and emotion. Both fuel my "performance"
Fi oone who will love you for you first, then you will not need to be concerned about someone's performance.
2007-02-22 19:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by TOM K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course guys are sensitive about their performance. You can't tell him he did a poor job of it and then expect him to stick around! How would you feel if he said that you're performance wasn't 'up to par'? You'd be pretty embarressed and humiliated too!
2007-02-22 15:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Siany 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg i am really sorry jessica
this guys sounds like a complete jerk
not all guys are though i hope (including myself)
advice-
try to move on ,it's not that easy after 7 months of
making a connection with someone.
i really don't get how some people(people not just boys )
can find it so easy to just ignore and forget you like you don't even matter after there done(so to speak )with you
it sucks
2007-02-16 02:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by johnc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like he might be embarrassed, try talking to him and tell him that the problem doesn't bother you and he needs to talk to someone because that problem might not go away without help.
if he will not talk to you then you really cant do anything apart from getting on with your own life, don't waste to much time worrying. good luck.
2007-02-23 05:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by sarah xxx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My teacher once said,
Never ASSUME in your life.
Because when you ASSUME you make an *** out of Urself and others.
So i would recommend u to go upto him and ask him directly.
2007-02-23 13:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has problems..you dont need someone like that in your life..dont chase him.
2007-02-23 14:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋