im 18 and i've been with my girlfriend for 6 months. We still live in the same city but we go to different universities. I see her bestfriend almost daily, and she always comes by my house (i live on my own) and we fool around (taking showers together, and hot tub). Its been going on everyday for the past 2 weeks and today my gf's best friend told me she wants to live with me WITHOUT my gf knowing. This gives her a free place to stay, and in return she said she'd clean the house and have sex as many times as i want. She also said if i dont comply she'll send the videotapes to my friends and family. I WILL NOT break up with my g/f and the relationship i have with her friend is just based on looks. should i keep this a secret and lead my life OR if i do confess to my g/f, i'll have my parents see my tape, no girlfriend and a girl that will try to ruin my car/house.... what should i do?
2007-02-15 18:13:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw, i see my gf's best friend everyday as we're in the same program @ the same university.
2007-02-15 18:13:42 · update #1
1) Break up with your girlfriend. She deserves better than what you're doing, and i really hope you realize that.
2) You're fling girl is a manipulative witch and you need to shove her out the door.
3) If you want to play around and live it up while you're young, DONT drag another person into it. Stay single for a while until you're mature enough for a commitment.
2007-02-15 18:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by Freaked out 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is an extremely tough position you got yourself into. You need to tell your girlfriend. She deserves to know. You can explain all you want as to what you were thinking, but it will ultimately be her choice to forgive you or not. Keeping things going with her best friend will only keep things worse. Also, you can maybe scare off her best friend by threatening to sue her with blackmail because you honestly could. Maybe...
It is a good thing you have only been doing this for 2 weeks. The sooner you tell your gf the better. Which sounds better "Hi hun, I've been cheating on you for 2 years, but I don't get why I didnt stop" or "Hi hun, I cheated on you for 2 weeks and they were the most miserable 2 weeks ever. I don't realize how I got caught up in it all."
Also, good thing you want to stay together with her. But look what you have done. Think of it from her shoes regardless of how cliche that sounds. Her best friend is just trying to get a free ride. Realize that's not the kind of girl you want to be with and get out of it. If she damages your car, take her to small claims court.
As for her being in your same University, that makes things ten times more difficult, but hell, that's life.
2007-02-15 18:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you see why this was a bad idea now? She wants more than what she has asked for and she is black-mailing you for it now. Tape her in secret and let your girlfriend hear the tape & know what has happened.....Either way, you need out of this situation, whether you lose your girlfriend or not. Your girfriend's best friend is dangerous and to be feared...contained like a fire. Deal with her as soon as you can & sell the story to a TV network.
I see a book deal in the works too.
2007-02-15 18:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come Clean Now The Longer You Wait The Worse It Is Going To Get
2007-02-15 18:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Lin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've officially complicated things,remember this the next time you want to cheat on someone
the truth will set you free
tell the truth and everything will fall into place even if that relationship has to end and your parents see the tape...
tell her friend you love your girlfriend and you have no intentions on leaving her,you made a mistake by sleeping with her.
tell her to do what she has to do but moving in with eachother will be the biggest mistake you and her ever made,cause your not in love it was only fun because it was forbidden and secretive and without your girlfriend yall will just get on eachother's nerves...
and let her know that your sorry if you led her on but you could never be in a relationship with her
then call the cops cause that ***** sound crazy,she knew what it was when it started
and she aint no kind of friend
2007-02-15 18:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confess. Your girlfriend deserves that from you. If you think that confession will result in a breakup, then you should have thought of that BEFORE you let the head WITHOUT the BRAIN think for you! As for your family...you should have thought about them too.
Sorry...you did it to yourself.
Plus...what's to stop this "BESTFRIEND" of hers from holding this video over your head anytime that she wants to bully you into doing something. REALITY CHECK: she's USING you. Look beyond her appearance and see her for what she really is--a very BAD person.
I also think that if you really respect your girlfriend that you should let her know that her "best friend" is toxic. Friends don't do that to one another.
2007-02-15 18:22:54 · answer #6 · answered by melchuck29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, just remember that you brought this on all yourself. Listen you have to come clean, that is the ONLY chance you have that your gf MIGHT stay with you. But don't get your hopes up, whether she hears from you or her bf (and she will if you don't tell her) I doubt she will forgive you... what you have done is inexcusable and plain stupid. Hopefully you have learned from your mistake and will never do this again!
So to recap
1. tell you gf
2. tell your parents everything...and say if they receive a videotape to please give it to you
3. While you are doing the above, genuinely apologize repeatedly and reduce yourself to scum
4. I don't know what to tell you to do about the psycho bf...but that is for you to figure out...you dug that hole
2007-02-15 18:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're no longer likely to get any solutions right here. i won't be in a position to have self belief you're no longer able to struggling with this. I truthfully have had a background of experimenting with drugs, so your analogy... slightly offensive. whether in case you p.c. to stick to it then stop it to kick it. locate out why that's you're taking your "drug" and view it. what is going via your head in the process the act? What numbs you at that 2nd to break down and take action without thinking. via fact in case you're lucid on your ideas you will have the skill to renowned your habit on the instant it occurs. once you're attentive to those triggers then you attempt to redirect your emotions to a superb theory. Say no to intercourse with unusual adult men and confident to the actuality which you overcame a huge impediment for you. And that's an impediment, given which you will in no way have a worthwhile relationship with that form of rep. Its perplexing for me to no longer come down on you, and a lot of others will. that's beneficial to contemplate treatment.
2016-10-02 05:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by whiteford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww wow thats a really hard decision. but hmm.. just so matters dont get any worse, you should tell your girlfriend now. your gf's bestfriend may be joking about the tapes =] hopefully... mayb she didnt record you. anyway, my advice is to be honest to your gf and end this madness before its too late.
2007-02-15 18:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by leeloorox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur gf doesnt deserve both of u n tht gurl.....
and im so sorry for ur gf for having such a bf n best friend..
so u askin whut u should do??
the answer is in u...
u know whut u have to do...
its between 2,
avoid that gurl,and confess with ur gf
@
forget about ur r.ship......
thts all i can say
u done a mistake..so u should find a way how to face ur gf
2007-02-15 18:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋