I saw my ex-gf with another guy in two different locations on one night on valentines day. I mean could it be any worst. I mean really. She dumped me for this guy she hardly knows and I was with her for 1.5 years. (friends for another 1.5 years before). It is just so painful to see her with another guy. I am still hurt and it is almost approching 2 months. When she phoned the other day, I said it is just too much to speak to her and I decided to tell her never to contact me again. She said I was childish. I mean I practically lived with her in her townhouse for 7 months. Only for her to find a "better" guy and quickly move on. Is that not using someone? I thought we were in a solid relationship? I mean was I being used until the "right" one comes along?
2007-02-15 18:04:58 · 8 answers · asked by stephen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, here's how it is. She is being insensitive to your feelings, but she is enjoying toying with you. SHE broke up with you. So why is she calling you? Why is she telling you that you are childish when you are pouring your hurt feelings out to her that she could be so insensitive? She is doing this because she is self-absorbed and enjoys the attention of men. It is fun for her to be with other guys and have their attention, and then to rub it in your face by being around you when she is with them (whether intentional or not on her part, she is enjoying it). Then to call you after she broke up with you, just says she is trying to play with your emotions because she craves hearing you sound like you still want and miss her. Some girls get a high from this. It's sick. You are right to tell her to stop contacting you. Don't waste another precious moment of your time missing her or being hurt by her. Don't you know that there are plenty of sweet girls out there who can be all that you want in a girlfriend and who will appreciate you and would never play games with and use you this way? Sure, it hurts like heck now. Breakups are very painful and a person can't always get over them quickly. Still, you need to find some male friends, go out and have fun, and forget about her. Hard to do, but once you start holding your head up high, girls will like the self-confidence you project and will be paying attention to you in no time. That will help you to move on. Please, please, no matter what you had with this girl, forget about her. If what you had was so special to HER, then she would not be acting this way. You SO deserve someone who will find what you have with her just as special as you do. Good luck!!!
2007-02-15 18:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were being used on purpose, for some reaosn or another you just didn't so it for her and she moved on. It was great of you to cut all ties with her though! If she left you in a heartbeat once she will probably do it again. Also it ok to hurt only after 2 months, I was with a guy for 5 years and it took me a full 4 months to get past the hurt. Take some time for yourself and then get back out there! Hopefully when you are with your new woman, you will run into her...all alone!
2007-02-15 18:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one side of the coin--yes it hurts and it wasn't very nice--if it happened as you say it did. But on the other side of the coin, so what?? Grow up and move on---it's life and no one said it was going to be easy. learn to say HI and keep moving. Keeping in contacat with you may not be easy so it is your choice to not talk--go find another girl and you will forget all about this.Come on, man, time is wasting---get back into life.Smile and good luck
2007-02-15 18:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how hard it is my ex used me for almost 2 years he was useing me for my money and for somewhere to live i thought he loved me we had been really good friends for 8 years befor we started seeing each other in the end i told him i couldnt take it anymore i let him know that i still loved him and he has to smarten up or move out 6 months past and he was still the same so i told i still loved him but i just cant do it anymore and to move out and never come back its been 6 months and he still calls me even after i have asked him not to coz it hurts to much but he wont listen.
so i know its hard but beleive me she isnt worth it. but i will be more than happy to take you lol
2007-02-15 18:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by kelz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were her stepping stone. She's probably going to do the same thing to the guy she's with now. You need to get over her and move on with your life.
2007-02-15 18:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok! jeez MOVE ON!!! shes ur EX! that means minus! she wasnt "the one" so move on find another gurl whos more likely not to dump you ok? GET OVER IT!!!
2007-02-15 18:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. forget her first.
2007-02-15 18:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a gigolo.
2007-02-15 18:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋