How do you overcome depression caused by the death of a loved-one?

Question

I have been in a relationship for 3 and a half years, and been living with my girlfriend that just passed on suddenly. I don't have many friends, probably enough for one hand to count. I have been married before for nearly 16 years, and wouldn't have the same amount of depression. I have signed up for berievment counselling and still waiting to. Is there anything else anyone can suggest to me, or even someone just to talk to on my down times. Please help me!!! Suggestions?

Answer 1

Hi Jim,
Im am so sorry for your loss. I know that words now have little relief for you. So many people are suffering from the debilitating loss of a loved one. You are not alone. If you need to talk to someone you can talk to me anytime. yahoo id is photoguys2003 that is also my email address at yahoo.com. Is there a chance that you can talk to a Doctor or professional about this? I know it might not be that much of help to you right this second but i think they can help a little during this time. God Bless you Jim
Daily Anxiety 2
p.s. Prayer has helped me soooo much.

Answer 2

First, since I have shared many times in those types of situations, you have my deepest sympathy. I know exactly what you are going through. I recently relocated to another state because of the death of my best friend. I was asked to live at his home in order to help his widow and children financially and emotionally. I told them that there is no time limit when the grief will end, don't put yourself on a time table, time is the best instrument you have in overcoming grief. Don't expect to wake up on a certain day and experience an end to all your trauma. While it will gradually become more manageable, you are expected to mourn. That's normal. You will always live with your loss--it's unescapable. Those are the first reality checks you should recognize. Go easy on yourself. You are going through an acceptance stage that she will not be coming back. If you are a man of faith, look at it like this: For each passing day, the time will grow shorter when you will meet her again. It's great that you are going to bereavement counseling. That will help because you will be with others who are undergoing the same issues. You can also meet new friends to relate to and to heal with. Just move on, and understand that emotional trauma of a loss is always hard. You WILL weather the storm. Feel free to email me if you want to. I've faced these problems many times and am well-aware of your pain. Best regards.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear about your loss. I too have lost my grandma about 6 years ago to pancreatic cancer. She lived about 1 month after being diagnosed. She was the best women I've ever known and still to this day it's is hard for me. Her and my grandpa, that passed away 2 years ago this month, were married for 50 years and had just reknewed their wedding vows before she passed not knowing at the time she was sick. It is a unfair world we live in but you know they say every thing happens for a reason! You might not know that reason, but it's there. Try to find a hobby you enjoy. Get some car models to put together, or maybe crossword puzzles or something to occupy your time and mind. Medication and therapy also go hand in hand. You want to be an email buddy? Best of luck to you guy and keep your head up!!

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss. Sudden death is the hardest death of all to try and get over. Grief is a normal process and feel free to cry if you need to. If your grief is so deep that it is affecting your everyday life see a therapist plus the grief counselor. I saw both when my mom died in October of 2006 and it really helped me a lot to have someone to just talk to and also medication such as Lexapro would help you a lot to lift the depression.

Take care and know that you are not alone.

Answer 5

Sorry for your loss, I would have to say time will heal, and let yourself grieve, cry, and day by day you will get better...even if you dont feel it..one day you will. In the meantime, counseling is wonderful, because you can make friends you can talk to and can relate to. Also, try to keep busy, read, start up a hobbie, watch funny movies, volunteer at a local hospital or church. Being around people and helping others always helps somehow.:)

Again, sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you.

Answer 6

I lost my mom suddenly and unexpectedly just over a year ago and I was depressed in such a bad way for six or more months, that I started seeing a therapist, and she referred me to a psychiatrist. I now take Celexa which has helped me start moving on. Also, thank goodness I have great friends who came over and hung out with me, cheered me up and made me eat when I didn't want to.

Answer 7

my stepdaughter was killed in a car wreck 9 years ago. my husband and i had just gotten married. i had to watch him and his other daughter deal with the death. there are either 4 or 5 stages that a person goes through when dealing with death. one of them being anger, another disbelief. what I'm saying is that it is a process that has to be lived through. some people stay in certain stages longer than others, and some stages are harder on some than others. as long as you are dealing with it and not putting it off you are going to be OK.
as far as not having alot of friends, don't sweat that. quality is far better than quantity any day.

good luck

Answer 8

my son was killed instantly in a car crash when he was 22
ten years tomorrow actually.
if you are in the uk call the samaritans
the way i dealt with it was just to get it into my head that however
sad or depressed i was it wasn't going to bring him back.
doesn't matter if you only have a few friends they will talk to you.
talk about the good times with her - and be thankful that she
didn't die a slow painful death.
you will survive - we all do - it takes time - have a good cry
to some sad music - have a drink and go out.
good luck

Answer 9

only time,time, and more time can even begin to heal the loss of a loved one.. so sorry..

Answer 10

get drunk and be somebody