whenever we get in fights he calls his mom!! Little stupid fights! and she comes and yells at me for him saying Im a bad girlfriend and dont care about him etc?!?!?!
Tahn they both team up on me and its really awkward cause I dont wana yell at his mom...cause I have respect...
Im not just stickign up for myself, but I honestly am right half the time he calls her, and she makes it out like Im a total nutbag...help! What can I do?!!? I tell him to stop and he says he will and he doesnt!!?
2007-02-15 17:43:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time to leave him....
2007-02-15 17:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may probably want to start thinking about your own self this time. If you feel this guy doesnt respect you much that whenever you get into a fight, he'd tell his mom right away which would result into yelling back at you. Consult your heart. If youre contented being yelled by the mom whenever her son's upset, then go on with the relationship by all means. If not, then maybe you should just go on with your own life
Hope everything would turn out well on you. Good luck!
2007-02-15 17:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I'm going to say may sound mean, but I am not trying to hurt your feelings: I'm only going to tell you like it is.
You have a boy and not a man. This is like preschoolers at the playground calling their teachers or their mommies to tell the other kids to leave them alone. At some point, right or wrong, we all must learn to fight our own battles. To each their own. If you want a guy who has to call his mom in for reinforcement, then you've got it already. Otherwise, it may be time to pull the plug. The last thing any relationship needs is the constant meddling of outside forces, especially when the boyfriend in question can't stand up and be a man.
2007-02-15 17:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by Honesty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like your boyfriend has a very close relationship with his mom...and she with him. They probably have always told each other things that go on in his life.
But, her coming over and yelling at you is not acceptable. She is stepping into the relationship where she does not belong. This would be a pretty hard thing to deal with if you tell him to stop, he says he will...and doesnt.
If this is happening now...and it wont end, then I wonder what it will be like in the future. If you end up married...will she still be that involved in your life? These are the questions I would have to ask myself.
The issue here is not who is right or wrong...the issue is how you deal with your arguments and problems. Do you work them out together or will their always be someone he goes to when you have a fight...someone who will tell him he is right and you are wrong.
Print this out and give it to him.
2007-02-15 17:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of chicken little and his hair brained mommy hen. Before you do though, make this baby give you something in return for all the trouble he's put you through. Give him a good spanking and lay some nice red welts on that baby hide of his. Then he will have something to go crying to his mutter about. Why not? You're already the big bad nut bag so you have nothing to lose. He's hopelessly pathetic still living in her egg womb. Find yourself a real rooster and cut out all these cartoons.
2007-02-15 18:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, what you describe is not normal; and if you marry him (and his mother) it will only get worse. No offense, but he sounds like a whining momma's boy. If he truly loves you, he should also respect you. Marriage (or a long-term relationship) is a partnership where two people should be mature enough to work things out between each other. And why are you fighting so much to begin with? The dating stage should be fun and loving -- not a continual battle with two people knocking you down. I know it's easy for me to say this, but end the relationship and move on to someone else who appreciates you for the nice young girl you seem to be. Good luck...
2007-02-15 18:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Adios 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he needs to stop depending on his mother to solve his issues with you. You as his lady, shouldmake him realize that his mother can never be there forever. He has to let her go. I mean, who ever that he might end up with, whether it's you or not, he has to rely on himself. Because once your married, it's just him and his wife. They are the only ones who can fix their problems. I don't think that his mother is coming home after hours and scream at his wife, her daughter-in-law. That will be just rediculous of them both. It's like saying, let me pull down the zipper for you son, when he has his wife to do that, but so far you (no offence and I'm kidding, just putting some humor so you can laugh...hopefully). Anyways, I'm being serious as much as you. You gotta open his eyes. It's wonderful that he has a clse relationship with his mother. But the reality is someday his mother is going to be gone (once married, of course). And she ain't going to baby him. What your boyfriend is doing is being a coward. A son only knows best at least to seek advice from his experienced-life mother or father. And the only right the mother has is to give advice to him. If you see this continuing, only you will know what to do. So you tell your boyfriend to grow up and stop being a momma's boy. I wish you the best. Good Luck!
2007-02-15 17:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG what a baby. seriously consider the relationship obviously if there is going to be a dispute between you and his mom, he is not going to stand behind you. why would you want a man like that. as to his mom coming over and yelling at you, time you re-evaluate and stand up for yourself girl!! respect is a two way street - he does not have respect for you and neither does she. let loose on her if she is in your face again, tell her it is none of her business. she'll then realize that you are not such a push over anymore.
good luck
2007-02-15 17:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this situation will never get better, especially since he is 24. He will forever be a mama's boy and what ever you do right or wrong will never live up to her expectations for you or her son. Unless you think you can handle this cycle of getting mommy involved, stay...otherwise move on!
2007-02-15 17:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You totally need to sit your man down and tell him to grow up or get out. If you think it's bad now, how bad do you think it's going to be when you have kids and are trying to make parenting decisions?
2007-02-15 17:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by IamBatman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is WAY weird. that is the weirdest thing I have heard today for sure. this week, even. maybe even this month. I don't know whether to laugh my head off or to just feel kind of awkward and uncomfortable.
I think awkward and uncomfortable is winning.
that is really not cool.
at all.
on so many different levels.
weird.
2007-02-15 17:50:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋