I'm in college and have dated the same guy for 1.5 years now, and we're doing great. There is this new freshmen guys who is in some of my classes and who sees me on campus. He talks to me and sits next to me and flirts with me in class (I really don't flirt back, mostly just smile and nod). And he keeps on coming to my dorm room to check homework answers or ask questions about our class, while constantly wearing SO MUCH cologne and subtly hitting on me the whole time. I am at best very cool in manner when he's there, and I have told my boyfriend about it all. He's pretty passive and is annoyed-- but he doesn't see the harm, as long as I'm not reciprocating. This new guy keeps on subtly hinting invites to me to parties at his frat and to hang out in his room and stuff... It's getting kind of annoying. At first it was funny and flattering that he thought I was available, but I don't want to just say hey I have a bf, lay off-- because he's never ACTUALLY expressed that kind of interest...
2007-02-15 17:28:27 · 8 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Eh, if he's being that obvious about it, I'd say tell him you know what he's trying to do, and you're already seeing someone. If you don't want to do that, then why don't you try to casually mention your boyfriend in a conversation with the guy?
2007-02-15 17:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by Master Maverick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Inviting you to parties is actually kind of expressing that interest. Next time he does it, say, "You may not be aware, but I have a boyfriend."
Master Maverick has a good idea of casually mentioning your bf in conversation. When he asks you to a party, that's the perfect opportunity. You could eaither say, no thanks. My bf and I are just gonna hang out tonight. Or, Hmm. Maybe. Is it okay if my boyfriend comes?
2007-02-16 01:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Add your picture of you boyfriend to your desk. Have your boyfriend call you in the beginning of class or pretend that you just got off the phone and say "I can not wait for this weekend!" His response mos likely will be "Why?"
Then you say "My boyfriend is coming up this weekend/I am going to see my boyfriend! He is so great you should of saw what he did for me for valentines day. etc."(Brag about your BF and the guy that you want to shove off will get the idea you are happily taken and not interested.)
2007-02-19 12:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Tino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems obvious that he is hitting on you, whether or not he has come out and said he likes you. When he invites you to a party ask him if you can bring your boyfriend.
2007-02-16 01:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason that he does know that you are taken is that you have
not made it clear that you have a boyfriend. and if is annoying to
you as you stated then why have you told him this some time
agol.
2007-02-16 01:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well when you know he is going to see you have your boyfriend with you and hold hands with him. introduce him as you boyfriend and give him an kiss on the lips and walk away.
2007-02-16 01:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by THE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he asks you out, tell him sorry, but your meeting your boyfriends parents for lunch, dinner, whatever, but maybe next time, and smile lots.
2007-02-16 01:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by velvet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend that you think hes kind of cute...it should get him to take care of him for you
2007-02-16 01:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋