Im with a husband a preacher of different religion.. Im catholic ..of course If i dont approve of his religion i wont follow him cos its my right.. the problem is his mom and dad and uncle who are also preachers.. they wanted me to be baptized to them.. I never wanted though.. Is it right for them to force me?? What shall i do? they think of me as a lousy wife cos of that.
2007-02-15 17:22:39 · 11 answers · asked by girl lioneth 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
yeah.. before we got married he's not yet a preacher.. now's the time only he is.. and we have to tie the knot cos he got me preggy..
2007-02-15 17:36:49 · update #1
You may wish to explain to your preacher husband that these are not the days and culture of the New Testament where entire households were baptized because of the women having the same social status as an infant. Also, I would presume that you have been baptized as an infant, which you should consider as valid.
If your husband holds "credo Baptist" beliefs, you also may wish to remind him that baptism is not necessary for salvation since it is only a profession of faith, and depending on how Catholic you are, you would have already gone through a form of this.
So either way, there is no requirement for you to be baptized. If your husband held to paedobaptist (infant baptism) beliefs, this would be a different story, and the stricter the beliefs, the more discipline could be expected from his church. As it stands, if there is no pressure from the church, I wouldn't worry about pressure from his parents. As preachers, they all should know enough about Catholic beliefs to respect your religious preferences, and yes, support you in those preferences.
2007-02-16 07:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by ccrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married to your husband, not your inlaws. If they're that insecure that they have to force their beliefs down your throat, you need to be confident enough in yours to draw the line. It's your choice and your life. You can live it any way you see fit as long as you're not hurting anyone in the process.
Tell them you'll get baptized only if they go to mass with you and go to confession every week for the rest of their lives. I'm sure they'll balk at that little request. Use that as an example as to why you won't fall in line. Religion is quite personal. They have no right to infringe on your rights as a human being. The goverment can't do it, neither can they. You should also tell your hubby to grow a set and tell him to set his parents straight. Your husband should have your back. If you really want to get down to it, he's suppose to side with you...always! That's in the bible. If he's religious, he should know that tid bit.
Don't do anything you don't want to do. Only you have to live with the choice and you'll grow resentful if you're forced to do anything that goes against your beliefs.
2007-02-15 17:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me you're outnumbered and cornered also but I don't think that if you are coerced into changing your religion it will be from your heart and therefore it wouldn't be from the heart, but the Bible says that God is a spirit and those worshipping him must do so with spirit and truth! (John4::24) so if you wand to convert o any religion it must be the truth and your wish,to do so it is up to you to find the truth and you need to be the one to decide if you will convert no-one else can do this for you,if you are not the one to decide then it is a waste of time for you to convert because God will not see that as genuine and it would not be, norwould it be the right reason to convert! A pointless exercise this would be! You are not a lousy wife just because of not bowing to their wishes.
2007-02-15 17:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by I speak Truth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can anyone force you to do something that you do not want to do? I guess that they can make you miserable or guilty enough to do it. Who cares what they think. They are crude and rude. What good do they think baptizing someone who is not really wanting it would do? Tell them that you are not going to do it. That you are happy with your beliefs and that you do not want to talk about it anymore. Get on with your life and forget them. Or better yet become an Atheist like me
2007-02-15 17:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you marry someone if you had these kind of issues? Surely you knew that he was a minister before you married him. Your problem isn't with your in-laws, it's in your relationship with your husband. I mean, what's going to happen when you have kids? Your home is going to be an emotional battlefield. One of you is going to have to compromise gracefully and not begrudge the other the religion of their choice. You have chosen a hard life for yourself.....
2007-02-15 17:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jensenfan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand... you marry a preacher but you don't go to church with him? I can understand his parents point of view... kinda. While he is giving his sermon at his church , you go to yours.
What brought the two of you together in marriage in the 1st place? Please don't tell me that you got pregnant.
2007-02-15 17:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be baptised if you do not want to be. It is something one is supposed to do willingly and because of their own personal desire to join the religion and follow the customs.
2007-02-15 17:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Haulie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some ear plugs and a shotgun and blow them all away!
2007-02-15 17:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by spanky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exercise your freewill as an individual.
2007-02-15 17:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by jordan_C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The solution should have been figured out when you started dating him.
2007-02-15 17:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋