There was a guy who was everything I wanted in a man and he treated me like the most important person in his world (besides his mother). I truly cared for him but had just gotten out of relationship with someone who, unbeknownst to me, had been cheating the entire time. So, I wasn't ready for another relationship. However, I feel like I hurt the good guy because of what happened with my ex, by cutting off contact after he told me he loved me. Now, I would like to ask for his forgiveness. How should I go about doing that?
2007-02-15 17:11:40 · 7 answers · asked by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By not treating the good ones like that in the future. My advice is to not pursue him. Although he may still be open to it, im sure he's moved on. If it happens, fine, but dont get your hopes up. Its not right to make him feel like a contingency plan.
2007-02-15 17:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by vanman8u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By just doing it truthfully without any tricks or games.Just do it honestly and openly.That way you would not have a guilty soul and his injured soul would come to rest and maybe the healing process would begin.This same situation happened to me 6 years ago and the girl being extremely insensitive never said sorry.My soul still hurts besides so many other losses I suffered academically being unable to focus.A simple sorry from her open and upfront would have healed me but she never took the trouble.So had to pass through this pain for 6 years.Knowing my own pain I recommend you to apologize to the person sincerely and honestly thats the best way for both you and him.Hope it helps.
2007-02-16 01:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy!!! Ask him to go out and have pizza or a starbucks...somewhere you can sit and relax and talk. Be honest and sincere with him and tell him that it is not him, but that because of the previous relationship you need some time and space. Tell you your are sorry that you over-reacted by cutting off contact and that was wong but you didnt know what else to do. Tell him it was wrong to do that because he is a really good guy. That you would like to remain friends. He will understand.
2007-02-16 01:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by natashainka 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are going to be like you did leave him alone you just needed to talk to him but know you cut him off that is could if it was me you would not be a thing to me so think be for you take out your problems on some one that cars for you
2007-02-16 01:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
plain and simple you just need to ask for it... explain the whole situation. but dont use the old its not you its me line... just be honnest and say that you are a good guy and you deserve someone who can be everything you want them to be... if you do have feeling for him make sure you dont sound like you want out... if you dont wanna be with him make it clear and simple... good luck
2007-02-16 01:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you have told us. It will work out.
2007-02-16 01:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get to him an ask you didn't did it willingly I hope he will understand best of luck................. (and try doing it personally and privately)
2007-02-16 01:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by haroonemf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋