my boyfriend was spoiled by his mother, sometimes he is selfish
2007-02-15 16:49:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your boyfriend is not yet mature. Try to open a conversation the way he will not hurt and help him self check his inner personality, helping him to grow as you expect to be. Dont spoiled him, let him know that he has a responsibility in buliding your relationship. Good luck ^_^
2007-02-15 20:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was spoiled by his mother. Let me tell you what it has been like to be married to him for the last 12 yrs.
1. He has never cooked me a meal or helped me cook a meal. He never sets the table or clears it. He eats and then leaves the room.
2. He never picks up after himself.
3. We always watch the movies he wants to watch.
4. We eat at his favorite restaurants.
In one sentence: The world revolves around him. FYI, we're getting a divorce. No amount of counseling could cure his selfish nature.
My advise, RUN!!!
2007-02-16 00:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by southernbelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very hard to change yourself, much less a person. only experience and a lot of patience on your part can ever see the man mature faster. my bet is that no amount of arguing is going to help him become a man. let him make all the decisions (no matter how childlike they are) himself and refuse to help him when he gets in deep. he'll learn to handle the consequences.
if his behavior and personality is childlike, there isn't much you can do about that. that's just him. you'll have to accept him or leave him.
2007-02-16 00:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me ask you first: what is his age??
this is not good to blame his mother. all mother like there children whether they are physically handicaped or mentally unfit.
in your case you need to study why he is so?? then try to change the thing which makes hime like childish. if you will leave him alone then in his whole life he will remain like same childish man. but who knows by getting your love he may become a man.
try to play manly game with him.
2007-02-16 01:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by dlinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you that there is no cure, and they never grow up.. I married a guy that was like this and went through 20 years of misery being married to him. He always put himself first, never gave a thought to the things that our own children needed, and I was never thought of either.
2007-02-16 00:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of problem do you want to solve? Is it worth it to deal with him and his mother? What do you want from this relationship?
2007-02-16 01:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mother created a monster, but you don't have to cater to him either. You can't solve something that has been created, he has to want to change his behavior, you can't change him.
Otherwise, good luck in trying!
2007-02-16 00:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, who needs a child for a boyfriend anyways?
2007-02-16 00:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how is he selfish? please explain in detail. and if he is a mommas boy, then you are asking for a lifetime of grief by staying with him. u may notwant 2see this . but i tell u the truth. it's sad.
2007-02-16 01:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by answermaker96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him...
2007-02-16 01:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋