I have been dating this guy for about 4 years, we have never said I loe you to each other, he cheated on me about 6 months agao and I caught him, I went back to him and then I found out he went out with the same girl again, he told me that he would never do it again, then I caught him answering personal ads on the computer for nostrings attached, what do I do, I really care about him but he is not paying attention to me unless we are having sex, no affection, no emotions, is this just him or is he just using me, I need help in deciding what to do, I broke up with him on Saturday and it's killing me?
2007-02-15 16:27:36 · 14 answers · asked by dolphin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Early break up saves sufferings. It is painful but the best option is to learn from experience and move on with life. You will get a better person.
2007-02-15 16:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Smart Indian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it sounds, once a cheat always a cheat. Male or female it is the same. They have serious doubts and are looking to fill voids. It seems you have an emotional void of some kind between the two of you. You can wait it out if you like but I would say it is over. I am sorry.
2007-02-15 16:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing, your boyfriend hasn't been treating you like he should. It's hard because you love him, but if he keeps acting like a jerk behind your back, I';m sure that love will soon fade, and then you'll be left with a cheater in the end. I'm so proud of you for breaking up with him. Don't be weak and dont take him back now. He does not deserve you, all he wants is sex, and seeing as you want love and affection, you should not be with him. You'll no doubt meet someone else v.soon and forget all about that player. I wish you the world of luck with this. In this particular case, dont follow your heart, follow your head and dont get hurt anymore you dont deserve it!
2007-02-15 16:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ari J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's killing you because you're having to give up the idea of the relationship you *wanted* to have with him. You wanted him to pay attention, and be affectionate, and not cheat. But that relationship never existed. The real relationship between you two is only hurting you... you're right to let it go.
Take the time you need to grieve the loss, and when you're ready find someone who actually deserves you.
2007-02-15 16:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by selena n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to be so blunt... but he's using you for sex... he doesnt care about you, or your feelings or he wouldnt have cheated on you in the first place... and 4 years of dating and no "i love you" i understand you want to make sure you're actually in love with the person before you say it... but 4 years is a long time... he has no concern for you or your feelings... its going to be hard to get over him because you've been with him for so long... but you can do better
2007-02-15 16:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jadey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did what you need to do, and broke up with him you should
have done that some time ago. if you have been with this man
for 4 hears and there is no love there that why he did what he
did, time to move on and find someone that will love and appreciate you, this one did not. but let it worry you, it will
get better as time goes on it hard right now i know because
how you felt. but you will be all right. good luck to you.
2007-02-15 16:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey,
Let the creep go... He sounds like a class A LOSER! I'd never take him back after the first time... For him to do that to you over and over, get rid of him. You deserve someone who'll make you happy, and treat you like a queen.
2007-02-15 16:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's is a bad guy and just forget him!!! if you get with him again you will just be hurt again!! or maybe even worse!! so just go find a new guy. and the your lover seems like a player, he will never stop cheating!! and he is for sure using you!!! and it sounds like all he likes he SEX. which makes him a sex addict or a horny bastard!!!
2007-02-15 16:32:18 · answer #8 · answered by Orange? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let him go if he is doing you like that then he don't cair you just don't treat people you love and cair about like that I know it may hurt but you'll be happy in the long run
2007-02-15 16:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by mjaynor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. If he cheated, he will do it again. Sorry if that is not what you wanted to hear.
2007-02-15 16:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by Billy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋