Me and my mom have a strong relationship. We love each other alot. But, we have fights because I always prove her wrong. She doesnt like it when she proved wrong. I raise my voice, but don't shout. Today, she said I got sick again and that i don't wear thick jackets. She said.. last time when you go sick, you wore such thin clothes. I got mad because it wasn't true, and I said I DID WEAR THICK CLOTHING. then she got extremley mad, and seirously went crazy. She started crying.. talking really loud when I was in my room. I came out to the kitchen, and told her why I was mad. The reason was because the thing she said wasn't true. Then she went crazy again.. and like kneeled on the floor and said GOD PUNISH ME THEN! SHE SAID I LIED! PUNISH ME! and started bowing but hitting her head on the ground. I was like.. WHAT ARE U DOING MOM!? Then my dad came in and yelled at told me everything was my fault and that I am hard to raise. All i did was state the truth. What do I do? btw, I'm almost 17.
2007-02-15 16:27:01 · 18 answers · asked by rebecca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Even though you say you prove your mom wrong, that doesn't give you any reason to talk to her the way you do. You say that you and her have a strong relationship, it sure doesn't seem like that here. You disrespected her by raising your voice at her. If you want to talk to your mom, then talk with respect and without the yelling or raising your voice. That is no way to solve problems.
All your mother is trying to do is protect you from getting sick or what ever the case may be. That's what mother's do, but they don't have to yell back and forth to their kids either. She cried because you don't listen to her. She figured the only way to get you to listen to her is by yelling at you, but she should know that it doesn't work.
So, what you need to do to make it right with her, is to apologize for your behavior and hopefully she will do the same.
2007-02-15 16:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Now go back and look at what started all of this. Mom is worried about your health. You are still her baby no matter how big or how old you are. Why did you have to make a big deal out of it? Why couldn't you just say in a nice tone of voice, "Mom, I know you're concerned but I did wear thick clothing. Germs made me sick, not clothes." Be calm and reasonable. It was your tone of voice and loud reply that upset her.
Honey, I speak from experience. Your parents will not be around forever. They are the only ones who will give you unconditional love. If you need a kidney, they would give it to you. They changed your smelly diapers and cleaned up your vomit. When you have a child you will understand the hardships involved.
Go and tell mom that you are sorry. Tell her that you love her and you know that she worries about you. And try to be as patient with her as she was with you for many years. You will never regret it.
2007-02-16 00:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter who is right or wrong?
Dont argue with her. If she thinks shes right about something, let her be right sometimes. If she thinks you wore thin clothes last time you were sick, just say "ok mom, i'll wear thicker clothes." It'll spare you both a fight and the stress of it all.
Its no ones fault i dont believe. Im sure you and your mom just have alot going on so its easy to argue and butt heads.
Arguing over petty things will never get you anywhere. Dont worry about being right, just do the best you can and tell your mom you love her
2007-02-16 00:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by independent101 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
menopause is not pretty. Have some respect, back off, be kind. After that she'll be embarrassed so break the ice.
If it ever gets like that again, what do you have to lose by saying, "Yes, I think you're right Mom."?
By the way, being briefly exposed to the cold does not make someone get sick, viruses do. But you will never convince your mom of that, so don't even try. You will be an adult soon, learning how to love imperfect family is a sign of growing up.
2007-02-16 00:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mom has some issues she needs to deal with some professional help. Is she going through menopause? I can not imagine what will happen when you go out to date someone that she does not approve. Wearing thick or thin clothes does not have to trigger a war between you two. Your mom need to learn how to pick a battle and when to let go. I am afraid there is more to it than said.
2007-02-16 01:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to prove someone wrong, just pick your battles. Not everything is worth fighting over or making someone feel like they are doing or saying something wrong. Just let it go and work on the relationship with your mom.
2007-02-16 00:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother sounds a little bit over the edge. Just hang in there til youre 18. Youre father said what he said just so all the fighting would stop. He just wants peace, and that is something women dont know how to have.
2007-02-16 03:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother needs to seek some help. You should learn to pick your battles though, you might be right and you might now your right but proving her wrong does not really accomplish anything it seems like. Just humor her for her sanity and let her get the help she needs. Then your father can go somewhere and just not come back because it sounds like he really isn't doing anything good for you or your mother.
2007-02-16 00:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The older you get the harder it is for your mother to accept that her little girl is grown. And the harder it is for her to let go. Just make sure that when you turn 18 get the hell on out of there before it's your head being banged on the floor. Good Luck!
2007-02-16 01:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly im in the same age of you,,,, in our subject psychology in is better to use thin clothing when your body has high temperature and thats prove your mom knows best for you.... like dring hot when the weather is warm... this reality of scientific world sounds weird but in your case with your mom just gave her due respect and let her know her mistakes in a well good manner..... i think both of you commit mistakes!!!!! so what i can say is she is still your mom,,, mom knows best,,, and child knows best in her when she is in the right age...your age is in the experimentation age,,, so i understand you.... maybe the way you do is read some articles that makes your relationship with your mom grows better... take care and go blesss.......
2007-02-16 00:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by may flor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋