You have to take your power back. Don't call and don't write.
A one-sided breakup is a fact of life. Believe me, she isn't wasting any time worrying about it or you.
For the why of it: She didn't love you. She wasn't ready to commit. She got interested in someone else. She has no reason that would make sense to you.
Bottom line: She didn't care enough about you to try to explain.
None of these have anything to do with you, what you did wrong or who you are. You deserve better.
So, its goodbye: final answer! There is someone better just waiting. Go find her. You heal a little each day when you allow the wound to scab over. You heal faster if you apply a balm and a band-aid. Good luck!
2007-02-15 16:38:47
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answered by Charlie Kicksass 7
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Its a really hard thing to go through in life. I sometimes think guys take it harder than girls. The end of a relationship can be heartbreaking, you are grieving a loss similar to experiencing a death. I would try to get over the WHY? It may be because of you.... maybe not.... there are sometimes other factors besides the other person that make people end relationships, ie. not willing to committ to one person, interested in another person, cold feet, wanting to pursue other focuses in life besides relationships, etc. She may be confused and not know the answer herself. How often are you calling or sending letters? Are you perhaps seeming a bit desperate? Creepy? Your need for an answer might be getting misinterpreted or causing a bit of fear. Stop focusing on the WHY and start thinking about the WHAT NEXT. Preoccupation with negative memories from our past keeps us in a slump.
2007-02-15 16:32:09
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answered by Lisa R 2
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Yes, life happens. How long does it take? Well, how much did you really love her/him? The truth is a real love you may never get over. But once you realize that it is over, you will begin to forget the hurting. You WILL move on. It is unfortunate that he/she will not tell you why, but you shouldn't worry about the reason why. You should focus on improving your life and getting past the relationship. It is very difficult to be dumped by someone you really loved, and it will take a long time to get over, but hang in there!
2007-02-15 16:31:48
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answered by jilando 2
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I know it sucks to be dumped bro. Fortunately, I was normally the one doing the dumping, but it never really stops the feeling of being alone, and having to start the game all over again. I agree that you deserve an answer, as to why. But the only one who can answer that is your ex. Just text them or something, and demand that they give you one reason why they dumped you, and then say you'll leave them alone. Sound a little creepy and obsessive, but hey, it might work. Good luck bro.
2007-02-15 16:26:20
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answered by Zeppboy67 2
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I dont think no one can really tell you how long, because people heal and deal with things differently, I can say love hearts and to not know why you were dumped hurts to but to release one emotion for another, meaning cry along the way to moving on to someone better.Prove to your self even tho you loved her you love yourself even more.
2007-02-15 16:36:10
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answered by VALERIE 2
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You can probably forget about getting an answer. I had the same thing happen. I just wanted to know WHY as well. I tried text messages, emails, phone calls, and even showed up on her doorstep. Relationship ended last July and I still haven't heard why. It takes a while but you HAVE to move on.
2007-02-15 16:28:41
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answered by Billy 3
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I know you want to know what happen, but she doesn't have the decency to face you. I hate to say this but most likely she has someone else. I had a guy do the same thing to me, I wanted answers, I had to drag it out of him. He had hooked up with someone else, instead of facing me, he hid. To this day, I have absolutely no respect for the man. There are good women and men out there, just keep looking. Don't ask yourself why anymore, when it obviously was her, she was the problem.
2007-02-15 16:28:52
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answered by Martini Babee 4
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The say it takes at least half as long as the reltionship lasted. if it was a month, at least 2 weeks, if a year, half a year. As for the answers, neither myself, or anyone I have every known as got the answers to things like that, even if you do get some, it will be too late and they won't mean much.
2007-02-15 16:26:11
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answered by Anonymous
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I dumped a chick in january of 06' after 5 months and she still crys when she see me with another girl. Stage 5 clinger!!!
2007-02-15 16:30:14
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answered by Stumpy 2
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You know...try this...instead of beating yourself up pondering and dwelling and trying to figure out why and all that...
People who don't have the courtesy of telling you why, are immature, or unable to express their feelings and you're better off w/out them.
just get off the computer, go out and mingle.
Meeting people will help take your mind off the issue.
Life's a game...get in and play! Good luck.
2007-02-15 16:30:47
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answered by Anonymous
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