ok well ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost 3 months..but i havent seen him for 2 months because hes been in the hospital for depression issues.well i recently met this really great guy and i really like him..i thought nothing of it because i really like my boyfriend..but i cut my hair real short and he yelled at me about it, which i though was really f***ed up.also my boyfriend really likes me he claims to love me but i just dont know anymore...well the real question is...is it wrong of me to break up with my boyfriend for this other guy i really like, when i know this new guy might cheat on me.
and yes i know the obvious thing is too just do what seems right to me..whatever will make me happy..but i just want oppinions on this cuase i do need help.
2007-02-15 16:15:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you said the obvious thing is to do what seems right for you. first of all, you have to understand the meaning of being right. doing what seems right and doing what feels good are totally different things. i also believe you're setting yourself up on a cycle. you 'like' your boyfriend now, but you also 'like' this other guy. what would happen later if you also get to 'like' a more cool guy? you're going to wind up in heartbreak. before committing to a guy you have to be absolutely sure he's the one you'd want to spend the rest of your life with. if you can't see him in that position why do you want to invest a relationship with him? you are going to hurt yourself only and hurt your partner. i believe you can't treat relationships as merely trial and error, that when something f***s you up, you quit on it. also check on your relationship with your boyfriend. is he always that mean? then if he is he probably doesn't love you either. like and love are two different things and you shouldn't be with someone you just like. i think i've been too straightforward here but i just want to put things in a bit of logical light so you wont hurt yourself. hope i helped.
2007-02-15 16:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by J.P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, If you know someone is going to cheat or there might be a chance they will cheat on you why even waste your time? It is not worth getting hurt over just because you really like someone. Be friends! As far as your current boyfriend, I would find a new one. You haven't seen him in 2 months??? and he yelled at you for cutting your hair??? Hunny that is your hair and you can do what you want with it. Don't ever let an guy think he owns you.
Good Luck!!!
There are still some good guys out there...Keep looking!!!
2007-02-16 00:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by Living n Loving 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you obviously know what's the best thing to do, but hun, is that ok with you? If you asked me, I would stick to your boyfriend... he seems so nice, he surely loves you and he needs you a lot right now, I know it is har not being with your boyfriend for so long, but hey! He seems great! The other guy may be cool, but he sounds like if he was not going to take you seriously, he may cheat on you, but i'm giving him the benefit of the doubt by saying he may be a good guy, but still i'll choose the boyfriend. Good Luck!
2007-02-16 00:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is alot of questions you need to ask yourself before deciding. I think you need to ask yourself are you only thinking about the other guy cause its the easy way out? are you willing to throw away what you have only for something that might work? are you willing to have the possbility that this other guy might break your heart more than now? I dont really know what to say as I never been in a situation like this before so I have no idea what you are going through. I hope this helped anyways!!!
2007-02-16 00:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kiara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy in the hospital, things are going to be rough for him when he learns this or if you do break up with him, you might want to consider his feelings some, this new guy does not sound good for you either because if you feel he will probably cheat on you, your only setting yourself up for heartache. If I were you, I would not know what to do either, but I'm leaning towards the guy in the hospital because he says he loves you and he is probably not cheating on you.
2007-02-16 00:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy will cheat on you do not talk to him. You will just end up breakin your heart. So don't be with him. As for your bf, he yelled at you for cutting your hair??? You should of stood up to him. If he likes you only for your looks let him go. My advice find a new guy. None of these guys are meant for you. Oh and since the relationship is new to both guys end it early before they break your heart.
2007-02-16 00:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by xratedmami05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a couple questions going on there...
1) "Is it wrong to break up?" If you're not that into your bf, it only makes sense to break it off.
2) "...to get with this other guy... when I know he might cheat on me?" If having a bf cheat on you doesn't bother you... then apparently this is the guy for you. If you prefer being treated with respect, then you might think twice about this one.
2007-02-16 00:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by selena n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...huh? and are you also married?
maybe you need to take a break from what's between your legs darlin. Seems to be ruling your life.
2007-02-16 00:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay with the ,guy who love you.....did he cheat on you.stay with boyfriend
2007-02-16 00:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by romance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋