Has anyone ever felt this way and overcome it?

Question

Right now, I feel so hopeless and depressed. I am 19 years old. I am attending a local community college while living at home. I have no friends anymore, and I spend most of my time alone. Right now, I can't seem to think positive and I feel very hopeless. I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever been in a similar situation and gotten out of it??

Answer 1

yah! think of something that will motive you such as life with friends, the possibility of caring for kids, and so on.

Answer 2

I think you have asked a couple of very relevant questions related to your depression and feelings of hoplessness. I've been in the hospital for depression right before I went back to school to get some more hours in education to take the teacher's ceritification test which I passed in the state where I live. I was broke and lived at home with my parents also and had no friends after getting out of the hospital. I was depressed and felt hopeless. I found it was helpful to get out of the house and force myself to join a small group that had something in common with me even though I wasn't excited about the idea. The main task to change your feelings of helplessness and hopelessness are to change the automatic thoughts that you may not even realize you are having. Like I would say- "I don't have ANY friends." But, then I would have to say- "Yeah, but, there is that one person that talks to me a little bit and they might get to be my friend and I know it takes time for friendships to grow so it's only fair if I give it a chance and be patient and give the relationship some time because good friendships just don't happen over night." And instead of saying - " I NEVER have a positive thought- Maybe- " I had at least one or sit down and write down 5 positive thoughts and carry them around with you during the day and start to make them more of a habit and then don't beat yourself up all the time because you don't think you are positive enough. Just say- I've decided not to criticize myself today. If you've gone too long in depression, check with your doctor and if he thinks you need something to remind yourself what it feels like to feel undepressed then try that for a short time. I've done all this. It works. By the way, there's nothing like exercise to help!

Answer 3

Hey there..You need to get out of the house once in awhile..even if it's to do volunteer work,by the way that's a great way to meet people and find new friends. The thing that's going on now with you is what a lot of people experience after high school and going to a local college and living w/m & d. Your old HS friends either have jobs or are away at college. Do you like sports? If so, go to some local football or basketball games. You need to find something that you do that you enjoy and can look forward to each week even if it's going to a local park and shooting some basketballs or going to a movie. Right now all you are doing is going to school and coming home week after week and you are not depressed you are BORED!!!. Join the Y if you have to you will meet a lot of people there. Good luck I know you can pull yourself out of this I did.

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel. I am in my first year of college living at home while all of my friends from high school have gone away to college. I have recently decided that I want to go to medical school. This decision has given me the motivation to do well in school and also has made me more interested in studying science. If you could just find that special something (a subject area, a job, etc.) that gets you excited. Who knows? Maybe you'll meet some interesting people along the way.

Answer 5

Hi Cassie,
Thanks for your question. Alot of 19 year olds have that same question believe it or not. It is ok to feel like that by the way. Many,,,,many people feel this way espesiacly when they are young and looking at the many things that the future has to hold for them. And talking about it is fantastic at your age!! Firstly i would suggest you talk with a professional if these feelings last longer than 3 days or if your having trouble eating or sleeping. There are so many things that could explain your certain situation. You will "get out of it". God Bless you
p.s. Prayer helps me so much!!

Answer 6

I was depressed for 40 years. Now I have found the cure. Believe it or not it is apple cider vinegar. Take 2 tbls. in a glass of water 3 x day or whenever you feel hungry. Has 93 vitamins and minerals. See I believe depression comes from not having enough vitamins in our system. Also drink 6-8 glasses of water throughout the day. Read the water cure. Read the apple cider vinegar website. Good luck and remember, you are not alone.

Answer 7

My dear, I and most of my friends would not want to be your age for all the tea in China. We are in our 60's now and it comes faster than you think. Teens and twenties will probably be the hardest time of your life. There is light at the end of the tunnel though. Don't forget that to have friends you must show yourself friendly. Perhaps people are growing up and moving away from the childhood things, don't get left behind. Lean on God as with Him you will never walk alone.
One day a minister held up a $20 and asked everyone who wanted it. They all raised their hands. Then he waded it up in his hands until it was wrinkled and ugly-everyone still wanted it. Then he put it on the floor and ground it in with his shoe until it was dirty and tattered and torn and everyone still wanted it. The moral of the story? Sometimes through circumstances and bad decisions we feel dirty and tattered and torn, but, we NEVER lose our value.
When I was 18 I joined the Army...it was interesting, hard and fun. It got me into a new environment which is what I wanted. Good wishes to you. Your life is not over, it is just beginning. Mmm

Answer 8

Hello. (",)

I understand that you feel uncomfortable with your situation. Since when did you feel such way?

i assure you that there are several people who HAD, HAVE and WILL experience what you are experiencing now.

you ask how you could get out of it...simple but it is not an overnight process. It all starts in you. In fact, you already had by recognizing the existence of your problem and seeking for help.

Answer 9

Yes I did, for a long time.
I will tell you how I snapped out of it.

Three guys presented the gospel to me, and I accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as my savior. At that moment, I was filled with the Holy Spirit, and full of hope. I have never been sad or felt bad about myself since. It is that simple. If you want to have this inner peace as well, I can lead you there. All you have to do is ask me for my e-mail, and I will send you a message to call me. It would not be a good idea for me to publish my phone number here.

Answer 10

Yeah I've felt like that all my life. I know how it feels to be alone ahnd have no one. best thing to do is try to talk to someone. I know this may be wierd but I dont know you and trust me it is a LOT easier to talk to someone that you dont know. If you want I'll be your friend. I know how do deal with what you're going through. I have also gotten over it. If you want to talk I'll be here. I Don't have many friends myself but but the ones I do have I am very close to. I am willing to be your friend and I am willing to talk about your problems :)
If you have AIM my name is thecraziestbob and Like every one else I have a myspace myspace.com/blackeye08. send me a message and we can talk.
:)

Answer 11

You feel depressed because you tell yourself that your life sucks. Try turning things around by saying positive things about yourself. It is cyclical and you can turn things around. Take your bad experiences and use them to help other people.