I noticed that he is starting to be fed up..and im trying to tell the others to shut up now but they find other jokes on him and i try soo hard not to laugh but the jokes are funni and the truth and so since i cant stop i tell him to start being proud of what he is and he looks @ me like im out of my mine i dont even have a question for this except..What should i do?
2007-02-15 15:33:35 · 5 answers · asked by Kaybee 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
Whatever people say to him, ignore those remarks, and move on. Your'e giving good advice to him, and keep supporting him. There will always be people who can't seem to stop making jokes. I know ignoring probalbly might not solve anything, but it stops the risk of making a big deal out of it. Even through its the truth, his self esteem will get hurt, and he will react sooner or later.
2007-02-15 15:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Dealz © 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, first he probably tried to join in the fun b/c he felt like there was nothing else that he could do and did not want to seem "too sensitive." I would do two things. 1. speak to those who are making fun of him. Talk to them privately and tell them that you can tell that he is quite offended and they should tone it down.
2. Speak with the man privately. It does not have to be a long talk or anything. But, let him know how you feel.
And, continue to strive for peace and harmony.
If ppl try and say that "it is just a joke,"
remind them that he is the only Nigerian there and it is quite lonely when "you" are the only butt of a joke.
They might not stop, but they will know how uncomfrotable that it makes both you and him.
ANd, he will feel better knowing that he is not the only one who dislikes their comments.
2007-02-15 17:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by JAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk privately with the those making the most jokes, call them on the phone. Ask them to lay off unless your Nigerian friend starts it. Go with your instincts. Try not to laugh and possibly counter the rude joke by reminding them he is a guest in our country.
2007-02-15 15:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Billy Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to Make Real Friends :
- We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good Friends--Bad Friends
http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm
EDITED / ADDED:
Should I Apologize? :
- Why Is It So Hard to Apologize?
- Apologizing--A Key to Making Peace
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2002/11/1/article_01.htm
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2007-02-16 20:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue encouraging him... role modeling is important especially to people from other countries.
continue to discourage the others from going too far.
Be Blessed!
2007-02-15 15:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by ramzee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋