I really need some help here. I am a great guy, fantastic career, handsome, and marginally funny. Yet the result of every date I go on is "I don't know if we have chemistry." So clearly I am doing something wrong. This despite the fact that many dates offer me their phone number after, extend the date beyond a casual meeting, or even make a move on me. So? What can it be? I really need to find that special someone and I feel it won't happen..
2007-02-15 15:18:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My dear, nobody has the power to choose who to fall in love with, or who to drag into love with us. It's a natural outcome.. Love happens to some people quicker than it does to others.
It took me 5 yrs. I'd already given up by then, and it happened when I least expected it..
Be normal, and don't try to make things happen.!
2007-02-15 15:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by She-whom-shall-not-be-named 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are all of these questions racing through your head during the first date? OMG? Maybe it is apparent to her. Perhaps it seems obvious that you are too busy gauging the date as if you hadwith a stop watch or some kind of evaluative tool in your hand instead of relaxing and having a good time and really getting to know someone. Also remember, women dont feel comfortable when a date seems like a job interview.
2007-02-15 23:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its not something wrong with you so to speak but with the women your picking. You also could be having first date shyness. Its hard to think of things to talk about that you may have in common or be interesting subjects. Here's a tip i use lol write down on some paper subjects that you think would be interesting to talk about keep it in your pocket. Sneak a peek when you can for refreshing new subjects. First dates are harder because your really kinda feeling each other out and stuff.. If you can get through the first few everything just starts rolling.
2007-02-15 23:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are having such a hard time finding the right one. I think you should relax a little bit and quit trying so hard - usually right things happen when we aren't looking for it. If you really want to know what's up - ask for more details on what it is about you that the woman perhaps found that didn't "click" with her. However, I wouldn't dwell on it too much - unless the same comments are heard over and over by different women.
You sound like a good catch to me.
2007-02-15 23:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman are players just as the males, so they might just be using you, im sorry your not having any luck with your dates :( come to TN lol, anyhow, you will know when you have chemistry you'll just click and not have those awful awkward moments ya know where you have nothing to say and just looking around lol (hate that happens all the time lol) Just give yourself time on finding that "special someone" I keep telling myself that after every bad date and every day when i see happy couples....when its my turn its my turn and it will be good and worth it ;) Hope you have a wonderful weekend!
2007-02-15 23:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren_Ann20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you are saying to her or doing. Do you have manners? Well of course you probably do. Do you keep the conversation flowing well? Do you ask obvious or stupid questions? Do you try to make jokes, that are really not that funny? Do you look like what she expected? Girls usually like smart, funny, and cute guys. Do you make those traits noticeable? But with the smart trait, don't overexerted yourself or talk about yourself too much. Answer her questions. Ask questions about her.
See if any of that works. And ask yourself those questions. If that doesn't work, ask for more advice.
2007-02-15 23:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by TSF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you said about yourself it reminds me of my cousin. I am related to impossibly awesome guys. And my cousin is how all women when they make that list of what they want in a man it fit him exactly. He has a great job great money flow, he's buff and all that. But no girl ever stays with him. And they always tell him your the kind of man we marry not the kind we date. But he is in that marriage time. So your problem is more than likely that your TOO good. Makes the girls feel less than they like.....which translates into girls are dumb and icky.....but there are some (me) GREAT exceptions.
2007-02-15 23:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by tcolbat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not doing anything wrong. You are being yourself. And there is nothing wrong with that. It probably is the woman, they're just not that into you. And quite frankly, their will be someone who will have chemistry with you. It's not about looks, or careers, it matters about the person, and one day I know you will find someone who will fit you.
2007-02-15 23:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by Namaste 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for a girl, you either have it or you don't. It has alot to do with the girl too, every girl looks for different things in their "ideal guy" so maybe you just haven't met the right one yet. And first impressions mean alot. You have to give it time, don't try to hard, just be yourself.
2007-02-15 23:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your on these dates, look for body language during conversations. Certain facial expressions, or even gestures that you make may turn girls off. You may not realize it, but when your speaking your body is giving off hundreds of signals to your date. Some she may like, some she may not. Also watch your dates subtle body gestures. They will tell you what topics she enjoys to talk about or what she finds uninteresting.
2007-02-15 23:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by SureFireTactics 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋