i want a baby.. good thing or bad?

Question

i am alomost 14 and i want a baby, i kno i wouldn't be able to take care of it and stuff. but my mom is never home and when she is shes just yelling at me and her bf is an asshole. and so are all my brothers. if i had a baby at least it would love me, not like my mom does. should i even think about having a baby or wat. cause this has been bothering me for awhile now. if i had a baby i would feel loved and then everything would be alright. could me being depressed have something wit me wanting a baby also.

Answer 1

I'm almost 14 too and my mom is never home either but a baby is no way to cope with this. As much as I love kids and stuff and as much as I want a kid I'm not going to until I am married. I know that I can not handle one and the only way that I could get one is to go way against my morals and have premarital sex. You admitted that you couldn't support it and it would probably get taken away from you. If your mom is never home she won't be able to support it either.

If you are looking to be loved, don't turn to guys or anything. My advice that will work...join one of your friends' church and go to their Youth Group. I go to a Youth Group, and church and everyone is so friendly and everything.

Don't feel depressed, your mom does love you even if you don't think she does, sometimes I feel that my mom doesn't either but she does.

A baby isn't the only person who could love you. You could have friends that you could talk to and that will love you (in a friend way) and grandparents or something. Even if they live far away, like mine do you could call them or something. There is people who love you. Don't feel sad, if you want to talk to someone, e-mail me. It's my screen at yahoo.com. Usually I don't give it out but if you want someone to talk to, I will.

Answer 2

There's really no good way to answer this question. First off, it's NOT a bad thing to want a baby. There are many people in the world who have babies and don't want them or never wanna have them. You can't have a baby now though. At 14 your body isn't anywhere near ready for a pregnancy. And if you feel no one loves you now, a baby can't fix that. It's almost a year before a baby even acknowledges the difference between you and the mailman. And if you have no one to help you with a baby, you'll feel even more unloved and lonely.