Parents(or at least mine) are really strict. It seems like everybody around me has more fun than i do. At school I'm really popular, but at home i am cut off from the outside world.It seems like all my friends got to parties and dates and movies, but i can't go to movies without my mom(it's mostly her) knowing every single detail. I am not even allowed to date, I feel like if I don't get experience now I won't every learn how to have fun. If my parents knew I was writing this online they probably wouldn't let me or I would have a big conversation/ argument about it. My parents don't let me go to new friends houses unless they have talked to the parents and I have to schedule over a week ahead! They think they understand what I'm going thru but the were born in Africa and lived their till they were like 17. (I'm 13). On the weekends all ican do is sit around and watch TV and visit family members. I want to have more of a life outside of school.Do your parents do the same; What can i do
2007-02-15 14:45:00 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yeah. I used to have parents like that. They were incredibly strict, and were always wanting to know where i was going and what i was doing- they hated it when I started to date, and always insisted on meeting any buy who asked me out on a date- it really really embarrassed me! However, thinking back I now realise that all they had really wanted to do was ensure that I was ok. Back then it used to bother me when my mother wouldn't let me go out, but now I realise that she was only worried because she loves me. I know that can be a tough pill to swallow, but try to consider things from their perspective. I know that if i ever had a child, I'd probably do exactly the same things that my parents did.However, I also can understand that it must be VERY frustrating when you aren't allowed to go out with your friends when it seems like they are having so much fun. You need to remember that you're only 13. Most parents wouldn't allow their thirteen yearolds to spend the night out at parties. I think that you need to accept that at this age, you can't be out at all hours- no sensible parent would allow that to happen. I think that you should be allowed to go out with your friends though, and the best way to get through to your parents is to sit down with both of them and talk through the situation. Tell them how you feel in a calm, rational manner, and allow them to tell you how they feel. Be willing to compromise, but be persistent!! If you can't get through to them the first time you talk to them, try to continue to revisit the issue occasinally. I found that when I tried to get my parents to extend my curfew, they were unwilling to budge when I first approached the issue with them. however, I persisted over the next few weeks, and just kept calmly bringing up the issue. after some discussion and compromise, we eventually were able to agree on a suitable arrangement that suited us both. Try doimg this, but remember that at your age, you can't expect your parents to let you do whatever you want- its all about reaching an equilibrium. Good luck!!! I hope this helps you out! :)
2007-02-15 15:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by jemm4president 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for including your age. So many don't, and it's really important because there's a difference between what a 13 year old should be doing compared to what a 17 year old should be doing, and even a 17 year old should have limits.
That said, the brain doesn't stop maturing until you're about 23. For you, that's 10 years from now. Until then, it doesn't work well and teenage behavior shows it. You don't feel like that, you feel oh-so-mature, but did you ever see a four year old put his hands on his hips and stomp his foot? That's what you look like to an adult, but it isn't cute anymore. Suck it up.
2007-02-15 17:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I felt the same way, I could not spend the night at a friends house until 15, I was not allowed to date until 16. But hindsite is 20/20. Because they were protecting me the best they knew. I wish they would of held off until 18. because as soon as they loosened the leash I wasstalked and raped at 17. They love you and want the best for you they are your protection.
I myself have 4 children and they are not allowed at anyones house unless I know the parents. I know I can not protect them from everything but I will try.
your parents Love you, and you have plenty of time to experience life and have fun. You are 13 and have the world in front of you. Let your parents love you, because soon you will be let free.
2007-02-15 14:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by faith 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok! You'll hate me but just hear me out and think maturely!
You are only 13 years old, and yeah I did just say only 13.
You think you know more than your parents, they're always wrong, they're trying to make you a social outcast too right?!
My parents did the same thing to me, and now I know why they did what they did. And boy I didn't then... I thought they hated me and just wanted to make my life miserable! And I hated them too! It just wasn't fair what they were doing to me!!
Even though you parents lived somewhere else until they were 17, that doesn't mean that they don't know how a 13 year old boy thinks, that doesn't mean that they don't know what you want to do and why.
Believe it or not they want you to have fun! And I know you're sitting there shaking your head at me saying "No they don't they don't want me to do anything!" Right?! Yeah, I know I'm right cause I've been there and done that... and you won't realize anything I'm telling you until you go through it yourself and you realize it yourself...
Right now to you I'm just an old granny lecturing you... right??!!! Well how about I'm 22! I lived at home until I was about 18 or 19. And up until a couple years ago I thought my parents were out to get me! I thought they wanted to make my life miserable! Come to find out, they really were doing the best they could do with my attitude! I couldn't do not better myself! They kept me out of allot of trouble although I didn't see it then!
Work out compromises with your parents, if you listen to them, they will listen to you! Don't argue, don't raise your voice, don't whine, don’t' pout, and don't slam the door. If they tell you something you don’t understand ask them why they feel that way. Explain to them your not trying to be a pain you just want to know there point of view in more detail!
I do wish you all the luck in the world. I hope you don't think I'm lecturing you!
Good Luck!
2007-02-15 15:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by moon_fariey 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well. when i was 13 yes they were that strict. dont worry they will let you fo more things as you grow up believe me. when i was 13 i couldnt even go to a friends house!!! now im 16 and my life is cool. they are not gonna back off entirely but they will let you do enough things so u can have a social life believe me! good luck!
2007-02-15 15:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by celeste 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are from the old world, they don't know much about this country and are afraid of most of the things your trying to tell them you'd like to do.
Try including them in some of the activity's that you want to try, help them to understand why you want to do things that they don't know about.
They are just looking out for your interests.
2007-02-15 14:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have a few years left in school. Get a part time job.
Make plans to move out after high school. You have many many years ahead of you. Be patient
2007-02-15 14:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are only 13, it's just natural for a parent to worry about you. Talk to them calmly about it and see if you can come to some sort of a compromise on some things
2007-02-15 14:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes you might think that now, but when you are 21 years old you will say 'you know they weren't that bad.and they will always help you when you are sick so your parents are actually really really good.how brought you into this world?your parents
SO DON'T EVER TALK LIKE THAT AGAIN
2007-02-15 15:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by gregory gzik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents are the exact same that is why i dont tell them when i get a new girlfriend. so when i say im going to the movie.....i dont tell them that i go with a girl
2007-02-15 14:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jacob R 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋