Say you're a guy who knows a really nice girl online for about half a year that you're really fond of, both as a friend and possibly as more than that. You exchange e-mails with her several times a week and sometimes even more than once the same day. You also try to keep in touch by phone and chat with her when you have the time. And you and her talk about pretty much everything, both light-hearted and serious.
In the first several months, she shows some strong hints that she might like to be more than friends which she indicates may be feasible eventually, but then you feel that her interest slowly starts to wane over time. Then you send her an e-mail telling her what's really in your heart and she says due to the distance, she says she cares but thinks the best thing to do would be to be friends, and she starts contacting you less often than before although she still keeps in touch.
2007-02-15 14:42:17 · 6 answers · asked by 011 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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But then you find out that the distance is actually significantly less than you both originally thought, and you send her an e-mail to ask what she thinks about this. She doesn't answer to your question directly, but she e-mails you twice that day, and talks in almost the same way as she did before/earlier.
Would be very interested in hearing what some other ladies think she might be really thinking in this case? Should I try to stay just friends or to be more?
2007-02-15 14:42:58 · update #1
it means you have become a bestfriend, someone whom she views more than a lover, more than a friend,someone special,
and she likes someone else who is near her contact
i say you have a special thing,beyond love and all of that, its about humanity and sharing thoughts and ideas
dont stop talking to her just because you cant be together, or just because she is not yours, you found someone whom you can share thoughts with, thats enough to go by
dont push it, its perfectly fine that you have someone to tell your thoughts too, someone cool enough to talk about stuff and many things, dont do what other men do.
2007-02-15 14:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant say. I dont know the actual distance or anything, but is it a reasonable one? If so, then pursue her. But maybe give her a little time to let things get back to the way they were.
2007-02-15 22:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. thats actually kinda tough. i'm thinking that she might just be scared/uncomfortable about the fact that you feel that way.. i'm guessing you guys havent met either, and if thats the case, then i can see what she means. if i were you, i would just act/be her friends right now, send her e-mails and talk with her like usual, and eventually try to hang out with her as friends (make sure its just friends, or she might get weirded out).
good luck!
2007-02-15 22:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by HLM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have recently got a boyfriend, and does not how to bring it up to you. Or she may have had a long distance relationship on the past fail and does not know if she should try again.
2007-02-15 22:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly online relationships or friendships never go anywhere, if you dont make a commitment and try and be together for real then the relationship is just going to get very repetative, she is probably bored and is looking for something that will grow. either make the leap to meet her or just leave it how it is.
2007-02-15 22:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rossie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's interested. Ask her.
2007-02-15 22:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋