i am 19 and i am single. all i do work, i am to shy to speak to a girl i find interesting or i like.
i go every where by my self i do enyo going out all lone but i need a women really.
2007-02-15 14:30:48 · 28 answers · asked by kurdland 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
since your dying you have nothing to lose. Think about it. reason it out. Your dying right (of loneliness). Dead people have nothing. So since you got nothing you got nothing to lose. The worst that could happen is her saying no. Just ask her out for coffee., not a date. If she seems interested then ask her out on a real date. Its not that hard. youre making life way too hard.
2007-02-15 14:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are young. I too was shy at 19 and if I could go back with the knowledge would live it differently. Try not to be so intense and woried about yourself. Get involved in things you enjoy mix with people who share the same interests and have no agenda.........as in seking a partner. Chat....practice conversations if need be before hand .........and learn how to relax in others company and enjoy being you. Do not feel everyone has to like you or that you have to like everyone life is not like that. Just be you. The romance side of things will happen when ready you cannot force it and agonizing over it does not help. So good luck....remmeber you have a lot to offer....and even people who appear really confident have their own bag of insecurities on their shoulder.....
2007-02-16 03:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're mistaking having a girlfriend for having a social life. It's possible to live a single life and not feel over-burdened with loneliness; it's hard to live life without friends.
First, try to find yourself one or two friends. Once you start enjoying a social life, romance will happen.
As far as shyness is concerned-- just jump in. Have conversations; you don't need to ask anyone out from the get-go. The more practice you get, the more comfortable you will be. good luck.
2007-02-15 22:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Evangeline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're still young my friend. There will be time that you have a g/f so don't think that you will end up living your life alone. All you have to do is to be more outgoing and please do make some friends cause if you stay lonely you will end up annoyed. So make some friends, they can be your colleagues as well or neighbours etc... and go to places together as a group and not alone.
Hope this helps my friend and please do take my answer seriously cause we are made to live in a community not to stay alone. So you should have some friends to start with.
2007-02-16 02:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a girl...you need to find yourself. Loneliness won't kill you and this too will pass with a little time. Self respect comes with age...you will grow out of this...trust me. In ten years you'll look back on this painful time in your life and shake your head as it will all seem so distant and unreal. Hang in there and you'll get over it.
2007-02-15 22:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good relationship is one that is built on friendship. Go out and volunteer, learn something new, join a group, socialize and make new friends.
Lots of people are very shy. I am one of them. It s hard to put yourself in situations you arent always comfortable with becuase of the shyness but in the end, its worth it!
2007-02-15 22:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 and in the same situation. I'm way too shy, and I'm fine being alone most of the time, but I need a girl. And "loneliness is killing me softly" would sound better cuz of that song.
2007-02-15 22:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As the others said ... you are young. You are normal. I felt exactly like you. Maybe you need a woman and maybe you don't. You really need to think about it. A lifetime committment is a big thing. But if you are decent .. they will find you don't worry. There is a woman for every man.
2007-02-15 22:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Texas Mike 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you enjoy being by yourself, but are ready for companionship. You should build up your nerve to open up to girls, because believe me, even if it doesnt seem like it, they are nervous and want you to talk to them. Just go somewhere you feel comfortable like barnes and Noble or Starbucks, or church, or wherever you are most at home. start there and lay off the work just a little bit to give yourself a reward for working so hard. you are too young to not have a blast!!! Now Go Party!!!!!
2007-02-15 22:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try places like
www.thechurch.co.uk
not relgious , its a wild backpacker party bar... see the photos...
And go in fancy dress ie officer and gentleman, doctor or copper (ie check heart or search girls.)
Use it as an ice breaker
Foam parties are also good
if in London. Shepherds Bush walkabout in Spring and summer normally does them on Fridays ... See TNT mag outside tube stations
2007-02-16 04:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋