I'm overweight. My thighs are large, but it isn't like I'm obese. I am twelve years old and weigh at 138 lbs. My thighs get most of the weight, my stomach is average sized. But it's pretty obvious I am fat. Now, I look only slightly fat, not obese or anything. I am decent looking. Not ugly, but not necessarily pretty either.
I am way too self conscious around boys. I currently have a boy I love (it's not a silly crush -- there's no fricking age limit on love.) and I'm afraid he thinks I'm ugly...are there any suggestions to help improve my self confidence in my ability to communicate with guys without feeling ugly or fat, or feeling like it's the most important thing?
2007-02-15 14:30:24 · 11 answers · asked by MoonRabbit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all, is your name Marina? from Marina Valley? lol, if not....
Don't feel bad. We are ALL created differently. I myself, feel ugly all the time. I'm afraid that they won't like me cuz they are always after the 'hot' girls. but it doesn't matter. I have this huge pimple on my chin right now, and I didn't want my crush to see it.... so yeah. When you think about it..... EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL. You are beautiful person. You know it. They don't have to.
2007-02-15 14:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a friend who was sort of in your situation. She always talked down on herself about how fat she was. But there were a few guys that liked her because she had a lot of friends and was comfortable around boys. All you have to do is remember that the inside is what really counts (i know everyone says this but it's true). And if the only thing you don't like is your thighs, then it's likely the boy won't think you are ugly. And if he thinks you're ugly, so what?? He's not worth your time.
2007-02-15 14:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Emma G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are speaking down about yourself and tearing yourself down, don't do that anymore. You need to find things about yourself that you really like and accentuate them. Maybe you have beautiful eyes, and awesome smile accentuate those by wearing new make-up or get a facial. Go buy a new outfit that makes you feel good about yourself. Get a new hair style. I'm slightly overweight, but never had a problem meeting guys, it's all about attitude and how you present yourself. Walk around like you own the world smile and don't let anyone know how insecure you are. There is no one in this world that is better than you so go around and be proud of who you are. Who cares what other people think? If you really knew the truth, people rarely think about the things you are worried about. Keep your chin up, smile and go out and face the world with a little confidence.
2007-02-15 14:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to find confidence in yourself, this probably sounds like some crap everyone says but it's true. I'm sure he doesn't think your ugly, and if he said that hes just being immature, though it may not seem like it because your that age but trust me. Just find something you like about yourself, like I have a great butt, or I love my hair, guys will see that your comfortable with yourself and be attracted. And buy some clothes that make you feel good about yourself, or get your nails done, or a facial.
Good Luck
2007-02-15 14:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok before u want ne guy, u have to get ur slef confidence up. ok, ur not fat. fat in my opinion is is u way 500 pounds and look like a blob of sutff. r u pretty?!?! if u r, then ur ok. if u r really uncomfortable about ur weight, u could try to lose sum, but dont worry about it soo much. talk with ur friends about this. they know u better.
2007-02-15 14:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by book worm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all in your head,i used to feel that way but after loosing weight,getting prettier,taller,winning beauty pagaents getting so much attention from males still theres no change since i know what i am and for me my inner beauty or what i know,feel about myself is much more important then anything others/world thinks say
2007-02-15 14:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by youngtwoheartz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter what people think of you if you think you are fat then you will think everyone thanks you are fat but i bet you are pretty and just remember that it doesnt matter what you look like it matter what is on the inside and that is comming from me that weights a lot to but i feel good about my body and so should you
2007-02-15 14:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOR WEIGHT LOSS YOU HAVE TO MAINTAIN A BALANCED DIET,
go through any of the diet plans
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2007-02-16 18:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by smug g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im just like u and i got guys liking me. some guys like a pretty age and alotta meat but not too much. i think guys guys like fatness but not too much as long as u stay u
2007-02-15 14:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by lothargrl_4_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you he'll love everything about you.
2007-02-15 14:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋