Is it right for your parents not to approve of someone because...?

Question

Of the level of education, like he has his HS diploma, but I have more.

Answer 1

You do not give much of a reason

There is more to life than a hs diploma

Perhaps they know or sense something that you have not the experience to see

If you still live at home, they call the shots and you must respect them.

You need to give people more detail to get any answers of value

Answer 2

If you're an adult, I'd say it's okay for your parents to express their opinion once. After that, they need to respect your decision and keep their opinion to themselves.

I'd say this even if I agreed with their opinion.

If the issue is only his education level, a disparity in education can create problems as the couple gets older. Their concerns may also be related to what they see as a lack of ambition or initiative.

Listen to their opinion with an open mind. If you still don't agree with it, tell your parents you respect their opinion and you appreciate their concerns. However, you have made up your mind and you hope they will also respect that your decision. Even if it is a mistake, you need to make your own mistakes.

If they still hassle you, you're just going to have to learn to turn a deaf ear. Personally, I don't think it's worth throwing away parents for a guy. After a while, parents often back off when they see the guy isn't going anywhere.

Answer 3

no, i personally don't think it's right.. i understand it though, because all parents just want the best for their children including who their partner is (i'm only 20 and my son is only 18months but i've been through it with my parents and know i'm going to go through it with my son!) but in saying that, i don't think that the education level has any bearing on what kind of a person someone is and parents should be looking at the whole person, you can be a wonderful caring husband and hard working, even without a high level education, and you can still get a job to support your family. personally i'd rather be with someone who had a low level education but loved me and worked hard for our family than someone who had it all and had a high paying job because of their education but was a real bastard lol.

Answer 4

I was in the same situation with my current fiancee. He didn't finish highschool and I now have a 4 year degree from a great college. We seem like polar opposites and my parents never accepted our relationship because they thought I was "too good" for him. However, they are starting to realize that he's a great guy and that he loves me very much. I still think, though, that they wish I was with someone better since every parent wants to give their child the best!

Answer 5

they may say that's the reason, but maybe they're trying to hide the real reason for not approving.
but if they really think that someone with a lower education than you is undatable, then they obviously need to get to know him more. to judge by just a diploma is pretty harsh. but parents always have their reasons (which don't always make sense)

Answer 6

everyone has a right to his/her opinion. Opinion doesn't necessarily render something a fact, though.

My in-laws don't like me at all, because they're all very highly educated and I'm still working my way through community college. Their opinion of me didn't seem to matter to their son / my husband, however, who asked me to marry him a few years back. My in-laws and I have pretty much agreed to disagree now.

You should let them know that their opinion is important to them, but that shouldn't be the only determining factor in whether or not you stay with that person or not. You will need to judge that for yourself.

Answer 7

parents will always disapprove of a guy at first. but schooling does not matter! remember that. my fiance was 18 in the 9th grade and didn't graduate, and now he works for the railroad and supports me and our daughter. If your parents aren't supporting you financially then you can make your own choice and they will just have to support your decision. but if your gut is that he is a good man then go with it! it good be the best decision you ever make

Answer 8

Parents don't have the right to determine whom you can/can not date. You are your own person. However, they can approve/disaprove of whomever they want, just as you can approve/disappove of whomever you want. The question is--do you feel comfortable continuing on with the relationship without their support?

Answer 9

Parents are funny....I should know ~ I am one.....
We only want what is best for our children...
We want our children to have it better then we did & not make the mistakes we might have made...which is hard for the child who might find this as over bearing and/or controlling....
Try to look at it from the Parents View.....That's there BABY!!!

Answer 10

It's possible. Your parents probably want the best for you, and that means a husband who can support you. Usually people who only have a high school degree cant earn that much money.