How do I get rid of my dad forevre from my life?

Question

he might not be emotionally abusive again until my mom goes back but he's always a control freak even though hm and my mom are SEPERATED he still has power over her and she lets him out of not wanting to argue and fear of his anger and he's also like that with me and my bro....my childhood has been ruined and controlled i don't want my adult life to be like this

but like i said when he gets angry it's **** scary sp how do i break free? ............................AND h'es won my mom back she's one of those gullible types whose desperate for a man so it wasn't that hard (and my dad bcums mr. nice guy when he needs to and my mom still falls for the act only me & my cuz know he's faking) so he's gonna have even more control..............and it's not just about control but the fact that i HATE him and feel depressed when he's around and i ALWAYS see him i need ****** space! i cud go live with my grandma but he's ALWAYS there sometimes i just wanna get into drugs & die wut do i do???

it's not like there's even any1 in the world who agrees with me my cuz USED to but she moved bak and she thinks i was being mean by ignoring him after my mom left and she HATES him!.....and then i feel like a wuss 4 being so emotional and hating my dad (sumtimes i feel lyk that w/o my family giving me bs about hating him) i feel so alone i think about suicide but i kjnow i'm too afraid of death.....i just wish i could jsut grab some ****** drugs to so i'd have SOMETHING but i know i wish there was something else like that bad not as bad............for all iof you ppl who wanna say somethign sarcastic or say to stop complaining you can leave for those of you who arae being nice and understandig thank.........................so bak to my qeustion...how do i get rid him forever?

siighhh is there any song i could litsen to that has to do with **** like this (preferably rock/metalish)?

Answer 1

Oh boy, I know exactly how you feel. It might not work (didn't for me) but it's worth trying: get your mom alone somewhere, maybe in a public place, and tell her that you can't live with your dad, and she needs to either stay away from him and protect you from him, or she needs to help you get into the protective services system and into foster care or a group home or something. If your dad doesn't live with your grandma, maybe moving in with her is a good choice. But for temporary, get me the hell out of here relief, go to the library. It's quiet, it's warm, you can listen to headphones, sit in a comfortable chair, and read, write, draw, or just rest without being criticized. Let your anger fuel some creativity, or just learn all you can about teen emancipation.

Nine Inch Nails - With Teeth
Blue October - Foiled
Three Days Grace - track "Just Like You" may be most relevant I know of.

Most important thing to remember: THIS WILL END. When you are 18 you are free of your father for all time, unless you choose not to be. Drugs will only weaken you and make it harder to get away. Suicide lets the b@#%$#d win. Be strong.

Answer 2

I think you should talk to a school counselor and let them know what's going on. Talk to a trusted adult outside your home. Your mom doesn't sound like she's looking out for your best interest. However unless your dad is beating people up it's unlikely that you will be removed from the home from CPS. The only thing you can do is focus on the fact that you'll be old enough to leave soon. Try to stay out of your house all day and only come back when you have to. Or stay in your room and read. Block it out and focus on something else. You will be able to leave soon enough. I was a teen runaway at 15. I don't recommend leaving, you'll only ruin your life even more. Just stay and get a job when your 16, put your money in the bank and don't tell anyone what you make.Save your money and move out when you turn 18 and don't look back.

Answer 3

No one can have control of your life unless you let them.
You seem a very angry young man. And that anger lets your guard down.
Don't know how old you are. But what worked for me was to let people believe they had the control. Did my own thing Study what I wanted. Got the job I wanted got married with who I Loved. Had my family and for long time they were my world and still are in a very different way. I always kept in mind that they must be free to decide what they want to do. I did my part now is up to them.
What I'm trying to say is that you don't have to get rid of your father. YOU MUST GET RID OF YOUR ANGER.
What I recommend is to read, read and read all you can about human behavior and personal growth.

Answer 4

I cant physically help you in any way, but i can tell you that drugs is not the answer. I would advice talking to your mom and letting her know how you really feel and how your dad is affecting your life. If that does not work find someone that you can trust like a teacher and tell them they can help you believe it or not you just have to ask people for help. And stop thinking about negative things all of the time. I know that right know you think that life really sucks and you are right. i can tell you i have had allot of sucky times in my life but know i can look back and say, wow i made it through all that and i am know doing more successful things with my life. i hope that you work things out and i wish you all the best of luck

Answer 5

Get the phone book and call Child Protective Services or CPS in your area. All calls or anonymous.
If it is that scary pleas go to your school councilor. CPS will more than likely move you to your grandmas anyway.
Maybe then your mom will see what she is doing to you staying with him.

If you get a chance try to talk to your mom, maybe she will get it!

Answer 6

tough one. i've got caught my mothers and fathers doing the nasty, my brother doing the nasty (of direction the fool become doing it on the residing room floor in the midst of the night). It occurs. it is going to bypass and at last you will end picturing it on your strategies.

Answer 7

u need 2 get help and fast