Yes its 8 years, we were together for nearly 5 years then we had to be with long distance relationship where i flyed to different country for my studies. But still we keep contact from emails, messengers for untill recent. You know keeping a relationship is not same like long distance. You dont get to express ur self, you dont get the love you wanted. But still we went on for untill last year. I never had any thoughts about any guy. But last year i happend to meet this guy who is quite attractive we became friends and now i am having a affair with him. I know im cheating..but i do love my new person...as i do get more attention, love and care most often than i used to get from my bf. What should i do...I cannot end my relationship which last for 8 years...Help...i need to get over from this..
2007-02-15 14:26:03 · 5 answers · asked by Nurmi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I havent ended it yet. I am still talking to my bf who is far away from me. I just cant tell him im on with someone else.
2007-02-15 14:37:14 · update #1
If it was really meant to be with the first guy, you wouldn't be asking this question now. It seems like you do care about him, but more as a best friend than a boyfriend. I think that after 8 years, he deserves better than you are giving him now. Be honest with him. You never know, it may be the best thing you ever do. You could end up with a best friend and a boyfriend tool.
2007-02-15 14:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by jljcr89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be ashame of yourself, how you can just throw a relationship of five years away just because you are far away. You dont know what love is, because sometimes you going have to sacrfice and compromsie. You are going take his heart right out of his chest and you are going to regert esp if he is a good guy that treated you right. PPL like you get on my nervous thinking you know what love is. What happen if you have to leave the new guy for a while to do whatever, you going to do the same thing, the bottom line is your selfish and sorry to say you already ended it cuz its going have to come out soon or later, and im sure he will be better off, with a girl that would stand by him no matter what, so think about that
2007-02-16 00:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by Young South 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this new person, then the choice is simple. You obviously have to break up with your old love of 8 years. You probably feel guilty for cheating on him and now feel bad if you break up with him.
You need to tell him you met someone new, fell in love and need to end this 8 year relationship. He will be hurt, but he will get over it. But keep this in mind, if this new guy knew you were in a relationship when he met you and still pursued you, then be careful he doesn't do that again with someone else even though he is now in a relationship with you.
2007-02-15 22:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by insidehomerun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are very hard and don't normally work. You should probably break up with your boyfriend and maybe down the road try to reconnect but as for now you are betraying him and making things worse.
2007-02-15 22:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by EWSA_Tricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already ended it the minute you cheated.
Of course you get more physical attention from your new boyfriend because he is able to see him.
2007-02-15 22:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by faith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋