how can i get her to trust me?!?

Question

Ladies...i have a g/f who has been through some had times as she has grown up...

it has caused A LOT of trust issues and sometimes i know theres somthing wrong...and somthings bothering her and she wotn talk to me. shes so scared...
and i feel like im a bad b/f because im not doing all i can be or she would feel comfortable talking to me...

i just want to be there for her, but HOW when she cannot talk to me. what can i do or say that if you were in her shoes, would make you trust me more, or wnt to talk to me more?

i want to be there for her so bad, but obviously, its hard sometimes.

Answer 1

hi first of all i want to say you are a very nice sweet thoughtful and responsible boyfriend and your girl is lucky. second, i understand your girl because i myself have gone through a lot of trust issues from growing up and i have been from a very bad 3-year relationship that caused more damage to my ability to trust. until now it's so hard for me. i feel so scared to like her. i tend to keep quiet to like her because i tend to doubt other people's intentions. but she's way better because she had the courage to fall inlove and have you. :-) you will need to be very patient with her and gentle. you also need to be consistent and not break any of your promises with her. try to wait and just sit with her if she's not ready to talk, eventually she'll talk, just say im here when you're ready to talk. let her know you'll just there and show it in your actions. CONSISTENCY is the key.

she is lucky there is somebody who wants to build her trust and be there for her. me? none.. but ive learned to live with it. hope she sees you. God bless you both.

Answer 2

First of all tell her that you know something is bothering her. But, also tell her that you care about her and don't want to push her. Tell her that you will always be there for her whether she wants to talk or not. Everyone has personal things that they don't want to talk about or share with anyone, no matter how much trust we have in our friends. Give her space and time, but let her know that all she has to do is look around because you will be there ready for when she needs you.

Answer 3

Just let her know that you will be there NO MATTER WHAT! It is nice to hear that every now and then. Just let her know that it doesn't matter how bad it is you just want to know what's bugging her. Tell her you wanna see her smile again instead of be in a bad mood. Try opening up to her about stuff. Maybe then she will feel a little more relaxed?

Answer 4

its hard 4 a girl 2 trust anybody after bad things had occured :: it could be like this >> its not like she dont trust you but wat if u make the same mistake that messed her up in the 1st place :: she'll feel dumb and like why didnt i see this commin!! :: But then also since shes not tell u wats wrong maybe she have done somethin wrong on her part & feel bad ::she may wanna bring it up but she probably knows how its gon turn out in the end:: *& it might not be a good picture* then again jus make her feel good & feel appreciated, maybe she'll get over her troublin times and live happy wit u!

Answer 5

well first off, she shouldn't dwell on the past... she shouldn't take out what she has been through on you... but you should show how she can trust you...... assure her that you are different, and just ask for her to give you a chance.... just display trust other than telling her what you can do....TELL HER...and let her know your different

Answer 6

You can't MAKE her trust you... just be there for her and don't do anything that would break her trust... just give her time and if you're always there for her and you don't do anything that would make you untrustworthy, she'll come around with time...