okay. my mom just got re-married. the guy she's married to now is really nice, but i'm not used to living with another man. it used to be just my mom, sister, and me. but now that he's here i feel i don't have any privacy. my mom's happy now, i can see it. but i'm not happy--not with him living here. i would just move out but i'm only 14, so apparently that's not an option. i don't know what to do. any ideas?
2007-02-15 14:12:04 · 6 answers · asked by forevr.lonely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to give yourself some time to adjust to having him in the house. This won't happen overnight. Also, talk to your mom about it. Tell her how you're feeling, and tell her you miss the private times with her. If she's understanding, she'll make the time to spend with you, without *dad* lurking around. You need to give it time, and be patient. Your mom is happy, you admitted that. That should be what matters. As long as the guy isn't abusive to you or anyone else, you really don't have room to gripe. Your mom is counting on you for support, be there for her now. She'll thank you later.
2007-02-15 14:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad that you are happy for your mom!! Just remember you aren't going to live there always, you are at an age where you should or could be hanging out with your freinds so your time in the house can be very limited. Get involved in extra curricular sports activities, volunteer, or maybe even find a job. Good luck.
2007-02-15 14:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some time, everyone has to adjust until the newness wears off. yes, you lose some of your privacy, can't run around in panties and curlers...etc.....Is he mean? Is he inappropriate? Does he lack integrity? Is he a slob? Does he invade your privacy? Does he try to be DAD? Perhaps you can talk some of this over with your Mom....
2007-02-15 14:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say is after a while you will or at least should get used 2 it..........after my mom got remarried i hated my step-dad (same with my step mom)........after a while i got used 2 it and now he is more of a father 2 me then my real dad (although that might be because my step-mom makes me feel unwanted so i stopped trying 2 spend time with my real dad)..........try spending time with your step-dad just you and him or include your sister 2 try 2 get 2 know him a little better.........that's what i did with my step-dad..........good luck and i hope you find some way to get used 2 having him around.....
2007-02-15 14:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by the idiot down the road 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time. It's a new event in your life and it's going to suck for a while but as long as your mom is happy and you are living under her roof it's something you have to deal with in a mature way. You will be ok.
2007-02-15 14:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the guy a chance . you said that your mom is happy .that should mean something . been there done that raised a stepdaughter that rejected me for years but now we are closer than her real dad an even her mom an her are . give him a chance ok
2007-02-15 14:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by buddy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋