I've been so busy lately with my educational pursuits, that one day it occured to me that I haven't done anything personally for me in a long time. Whenever I'm done with one chore and I know that I have some time where I could focus on myself and do what makes me happy, automatically I think of all the other responsibilities that await me, and I feel guilty stopping to take out time for myself. It's gotten to the point where the only "me" time I get is when I go to sleep, and that's about it - every other minute of my day is mainly focused on running errands and doing all kinds of chores. Unless I really pace myself and do a week's worth of work in a few days, I feel guilty for adverting my attention to me. I know this is not good and not healthy, but I'm not sure how to break this cycle of feeling guilt every time I'm thinking of getting some "me" time. I need advice.
2007-02-15 14:04:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You need to understand that to be healthy, you need "me" time. Healthy mentally and physically. So, tell yourself you deserve it, you work hard and need it too.
Valuing yourself is important, maybe this will enable you to take a look at your self-esteem and see what may need to be worked on. If you have a good one, you value yourself and take time necessary for your well-being. You should not feel guilty. Ask yourself where that guilt is coming from, your childhood, a spouse, who?
When you start to think that way, put those thoughts out of your mind and replace them with positive ones about taking care of you. You cannot take care of other things and people if you do not take care of yourself properly.
2007-02-15 14:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs "me" time. It recharges your batteries when you have a crazy schedule. It is more important than "chores". Chores can wait. Your mental health and even physical health cannot. Take the time girl. Quit giving yourself a guilt trip over it. It sounds like you have earned it and deserve it.
To quit feeling guilty over it..... include it in your chore list. Then it becomes another chore to mark off the list, but its a chore that really benefits you. No reason to feel guilty because you are taking time for yourself. It is no different than exercising. It is a must.
Good luck. Now go relax and take some time for yourself!!!!!
2007-02-15 14:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by venturemomma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pain is only temporary. I am taking eighteen credits and plan on pursuing a double Master's. Currently, I have a full-time job, two daughters, participating in two undergrad research projects. I realize things will the better in the long run... Once you graduate you can treat yourself to a well-deserved vacation. Keep up the good work because you have nothing to feel guilty about.
2007-02-15 15:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick the Carpathian, CaFO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think YOU'RE feeling as guilty as much as it is that OTHERS are making you feel guilty for this me time.
You'll find out who your true friends are once you learn to say "no" or "I'm unavailable".
You have 2 choices...stay guilty and miserable and die sooner...or take some time out for yourself and improve not only your life, but be in better shape for those around you when you really ARE needed, and not just used as a convenience.
2007-02-15 14:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babe, why are YOU feeling accountable? you at the instant are not doing something incorrect! you're attempting to do suitable! The douche is the only that should be feeling accountable. concern is, you are able to no longer make human beings do the final concern, or develop a character, or be first rate...or substitute. might Johnny rather be greater ideal off if his dad grew to become into interior the image? Is the guy a good place type? Does he set a good occasion of what a guy and father ought to be? might he coach Johnny good values? Does he make him sense shelter and enjoyed...or will he make him sense insecure and rejected, esp. as he gets older? you're to blame for your self and your toddler. you at the instant are not to blame for this guy. you have have been given a good help equipment, you're a good mom, your stepdad is offering the daddy determine Johnny desires... i think of that if this guy have been in Johnny's existence on a usual foundation, he might counteract each good concern you and your loved ones are attempting to coach him. possibly sometime he will locate Jesus or get knocked on the pinnacle and get a clue. till then, i might plan to circulate on devoid of him. Who is conscious of. someplace down the line you will possibly be able to fulfill somebody who's rather arranged to be a father, and it will likely be a good concern that this guy isn't interior the way.
2016-12-17 17:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by morrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not feel guilty, just think of the me time as a way for you not to go insane from all the stuff you have to do, think of it as a way to recharge yourself, think about how you need the me time so you don't get burnt out
2007-02-15 14:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by life is great 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty...you are worth taking time for yourself...get over it!
2007-02-15 14:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋