I'm 26, good job, just got my first house..BUT.. I met someone less than a month ago.. we're still in the talking phase..and he called me tonite asking me if I can get him a cell phone, in other words, get the cell phone for him, and have the bill come to my house, (since he doesn't work), because he really wants to keep in contact with me.. I'm not sure if I'm willing to risk messing up my credit like that, especially since I take good care of it. What would you do? I'm pretty close to just giving him the boot and moving on.. Then I suggested maybe he get a pre paid plan..and he says to me "who's gonna pay that, u know I'm not working".. Should I just forget him and move on? I'm scared that if I do get him the phone, chances are he may ruin my credit..
2007-02-15 14:02:23 · 16 answers · asked by ƒ®îgg Üþ ©hî¢ ®™ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, no, no, no, no, NO! What are you thinking? This goes far beyond the possibility of your credit rating. Think for a minute. This man is expecting you to buy him things and is trying to make you feel guilty for not doing so. This man is trying to dump all of the responsibilities of communication in the relationship on you---and you are considering it? NO. Are you prepared to continue this behavior? Can you truly respect a man who doesn't try to earn his own way? Minimum wage is better than nothing---and I know several people who work multiple jobs. It sounds to me that security, independence, and self-responsibility are things that are important to you. Don't you want a man who has the same values? Don't you really want a partner in life? Cut your losses before they become any larger. If this man really values your friendship, he will be motivated to at least be able to talk to you on a phone. If he doesn't want to put forth even that much effort, the relationship was useless anyway.
I can understand being with someone who is unemployed--my husband was unemployed last year. But he took crap-jobs to make ends meet. I respected that. I understand that a woman may earn more than her husband, because I do. That's okay because we're partners and he is still self-sufficient. I expect it and we are both responsible for ourselves. Except for a physical disability, I simply wouldn't respect any man that was more of a dependent than a partner. And even with a disability---my father has been blind since he was a child and he still works 40 hours a week (now out of choice) and he is 74 years old! He would never expect someone else to take care of his basic needs if there was any way that he could do it himself.
(Sorry for the rant. I couldn't help it.)
2007-02-16 03:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by Witchy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, this guy is not worth your time/attention. He seems to be someone who does not even want to earn money to support himself, and getting the cell phone for him would just give him the message that you can support him. Even worse, once he has this way of keeping in contact with you, he'll ask you for more and more, and eventually he may even use your credit card, your car, etc. You DO NOT want this to happen. Move on, and find someone else who's willing to work for what he deserves.
2007-02-15 22:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by nornor888 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally, I think he's a free loader and you should kick him to the curb!! ASAP!!
You don't want a bozo like that hanging around! I can't believe the audacity of someone asking such a thing of you if you hardly know them!
Plus, he's entirely too casual about not having a job. He should be ashamed, not using that as an excuse!
BUT, if you feel it's necessary or you just feel bad for him, you could buy him a pre paid phone...
2007-02-15 22:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tiff 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast as you can. Not all gold diggers are women! You've got a job and your own house, he's unemployed and can't afford fitty bucks for a cell plan. You might be bringing home the bacon, but at least find a man who can bring a bottle of wine to the table.
2007-02-15 22:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
hello!!! y do u even need to ask this? obiously he's taking advantage of u. if he really is worried bout keeping in touch wit u then he should get his a!! on sumkind of job...dun risk ur creadit..i know how hard it is!!!getting back on ur feet after sumting like this happens. well im not trying to be mean o anything, but u have only know him for a month. so just take ur time to know him and dun jus be a puppet by getting him wuteva he wants.
2007-02-15 22:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by abhinami 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!!!!!!! any man that has so little pride that he would ask a woman he has know for less than a month to buy him a cell phone is a loser!!!!! Never date a man too lazy to work!!!
2007-02-16 11:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You met this guy less than a month ago and you are even hesitating about giving him the boot? Please think clearly. Surely you deserve better than this loser. Find a guy that likes you for who you are, and not for what you have or can give him.
2007-02-15 22:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by jljcr89 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would get rid of him, hes a freeloader, you dont need that. If he really wanted to keep in touch he would get a job, so he could pay for the phone.
2007-02-15 22:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by Bri B 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yep, move on. Dont do it. Why isnt he working, anyway? Sounds suspicious to me. I wouldnt take that chance with your credit. Go with your gut feeling.*
2007-02-15 22:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Check this out! 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
no that is just a way of someone tryin to take advantage of you tell him to get his own job and get one if you do get him one get a cheap on like a tracfone then let him buy the minutes on it
2007-02-15 22:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by daniel56651 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋