i want to divorce my parents..?

Question

hmm, i am 14 years old, and my parents are drunks pretty much and i am tired of having to deal with them drinking and all that other stuff and i am wanting to divorce them and move out with a friend but am i able to do that if my parents dont approve of it? and if they dont should i take it to court and tell them that where i am wanting to live would be a better place for me to live and the ppl i wnat to live with could go to court with me and tell them that it would be alright for me to live there and that they think that it would be a better place for me to live.. and like i would transfer schools and things like that. and live my life, b/c it would be a better place for me.. but do i have to have a better reason to divorce them and move out other than they are drunks and bad influence and dthat they dont act like they are even my parents? and that this other guy pretty much gets me everything io need b/c they spend their $ on alcohol? HELP PLEASE! it would be really nice and helpful

Answer 1

What about grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc? I know that I would be there for my grandkids if they needed me in this way.

Answer 2

Yes my parents divorced, and even though now I say that I think it was the right choice for both of them. I didn't necessarily think so at the time. My dad was a very controlling person, and after they sold our family home and mum bought a new house they decided to date. This eventually broke up when they had a huge fight and mum scrathed my father across the face and Dad was smaking my mums head aggainst the wall. I think I really came to realise that it wasn't right when I actually had to break it up and take the phone out of my mothers hand when she was calling the police and begged for dad to just leave. I think the effect on children has much in the way the divorce is handled by the parents. I takes a big person and parent to remain neutral towards their ex for the sake of the children. Children realise alot more than parents give them credit for, they know when their parents are unhappy and they know what causes it. I think from my situation it was a bit easier for the simple fact that my Dad scared me a bit and that by my parent breaking up it meant he wasn't there all the time. However, in a general note i think the kids attitude will really depend on firstly their age, secondly how the parent talk and treat each other. I think that is important that the parents are honest with the kids (within reason) becasue older kids can be resentful if they know they are not being told the truth. And lastly I think its they was the parents are after the divorce, if nothing is lacking (like love, spending time together etc) and each parent is happier (maybe not immediately) then the kids realise this and will feel the happier for it. Being in an unhappy realtionship not only affects the parents but also the kids. If one parent is putting up with behaviour that they shouldn't be, the kids learn from this. Parents are the biggest teachers in life and it is seriously a case of monkey see... monkey do. If you are the parent in this scenario, make a change whatever that needs to be becasue your children may later loose respect for you putting up with this behaviour, or even worse learn that they are allowed to treat people that way or should be treated like that. Good luck I hope that helps.

Answer 3

Its not really called a divorce, its generally called Emancipation of a Minor. In order for a court to Emancipate you, you will have to show that you have an income and capable of supporting your self, additionally you'll have to show that you have the maturity level to live on your own. Unless you are independently wealthy or a child actress you probably aren't going to be able to meet the requirement of having enough income or assets to be able to support yourself.

The best resource for you in this situation is the state. There will be some department in charge of child welfare. It'll be called something like Child Protective Services or Department of Children and Families. You will want to get in contact with them as what your parents are doing probably constitutes neglect, a type of abuse. Child Help USA, 1-800-4-A-CHILD, will be able to help and advise you on what to do. Ideally, the government would either make your parents stop drinking so much or they'll pace you with other family members like your grandparents, or an aunt or uncle.

Give 1-800-4-A-CHILD a call, they will be able to give you better advice.

Answer 4

First you should contact a trusted relative or adult friend and get them to help you. If you dont have anyone like that then you need to call child services and ask them what to do. But make sure you are doing this for the right reasons. Youre parents still love you and if you posed your idea about leaving it might be a wake up call to them. You have to discuss it with them first and if they dont do anything about it then go ahead and leave them. Just make sure this is what you really want to do

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Answer 5

Moving in with a "friend" especially a guy who buys you a lot of things and treats you well is not a good idea. I'm sure you are very frustrated living with your parents if they are behaving this way. Try talking to them, try talking to family members and see if they can help get through to them or maybe take you in until they can get their act together.

I think every teenager thinks about divorcing/leaving their parents at one time or another for a variety of reasons. It is just not a good idea. I thought I knew everything about myself and the world around me when I was your age. I'm sorry to say... I didn't.

Speak to your parents and family members and explain how you are feeling. They might not realize how deeply their actions are affecting you. My parents didn't until I sat down and really explained how I was feeling. It might change everything.

Living with friends is not a good idea. Most of the time it ends up being a terrible situation for everyone involved.

Good luck.

Answer 6

I feel bad that is happening to you, and I understand. First of all, the people you want to stay with must file the necessary paper work in court, in order to get guardian ship. If a judge hears your case, he will probably be sympathetic, but you must know one thing, if your parents go through treatment and try to get you back, the judge will have to give you back to them. You will have to make them go to a clinic to get the help they need, you can help them too. Also, the people you live with must be responsible adults, you cant just go and say I want to live with him. However, for all this you need some form of legal council, unless your parents do not contest the arrangement. Good luck..

Answer 7

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I almost did this with my parents.

I am sorry to hear that you want to do this, but hope everything works out for the better.

I would make some calls to some attorneys, and would also google.com a search for other teenagers who have already done this process, and could contact them on information on how to suceed in this. And, in the process you could also meet someone who has been in the same position you are in.

You sound very intelligent, mature, and it sounds like you will grow up to be a great parent, and really do the opposite of what your parents are doing.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 8

In all seriousness you need some real help! try getting them to see a councelor. Or get try finding out if there is and alchohol anonomyos group in your area because if you do what you are saying will stress and depress them more and make things even worse. the only thing that truly can be done is get them help and then you can try to have a normal relationship. Good luck ♥

Answer 9

If you have a relative that is willing to take your or if you have godparents, that would be the easiest route (considering your age). If they are that bad and seriously interfering with you living a healthy life, then you can contact human services or talk to a guidance counselor at school who to contact, they can get you set up and in the right direction. (I am 17 and no longer living at home--moved out early)

Answer 10

If you live in California you can do it,and you feel you don't feel safe or are in danger it would be the right thing to do.But I'm not sure in other states.Ask at school for someone at child protective services(cps)or the number for them. But once you do this theres no going back.

Answer 11

You should be very careful in proceeding here. In a situation such as this it is very likely that social services could get involved, and you definitely don't want that. You should get an adult that you trust to speak with a family law attorney in your area. Best of luck.