Me and my girlfriend just moved in together and I have been finding text messages that she sends another girl and the girl sends them back. They tell eachother they love eachother and so forth. I have asked my girlfriend about her cheating and the text messages I found but she says they r not together and says that she loves me and wants to be with me. I want to leave her but I will not be able to afford this apartment and everything by myself. I love her very much and I know she loves me but she thinks when i went out of town that i cheated on her but I didnt so she claims that is the reason she is cheating on me. i just don't know what to do. Please Help!!1
2007-02-15 13:46:00 · 18 answers · asked by Jamille S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok her is the thing guys I dont have any friends to help me with the bills. The apartment is in my name so that is why I am stuck with everything. She also says things to me like she is never going anywhere and she wont let me leave. i'm not using th apartment as an excuse to stay with cause I want to leave if she won't change. If I tell my mom whats going on she wont do anything but say I told you so.
2007-02-15 13:57:31 · update #1
Have a threesome!!!
2007-02-15 14:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by ........ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is no good. If that's how she reacts to you "cheating" then I don't think she is mature enough to handle a relationship. You also have to realize this because I can see you are using the apartment as an excuse to stay with her. Unless you live in New York City, it cannot be impossible to find another apartment. I'm sure there are plenty of other girls out there that are willing to love you better than her.
2007-02-15 21:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by philosophical_schoolgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you two care for each other, I don't think you two are good for each other. She doesnt trust you and she does spiteful things when she is made. That is not good. And you should never remain in a dysfunctional relationship because of finances. All it will do is mess up your self esteem and make you miserable. Tell her you want out and that YOU are moving out. Why should you be stuck with the bills when you didnt do anything wrong!
2007-02-15 21:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is cheating, you have to go. Cheaters are addicts. Like alcoholics, they dont change. If they are put into a situation that present an opportunity to make an error in judgement, they often do. It might be financially taxing at first but it will be worth it in the long run. Good luck!
2007-02-15 21:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said you cant afford the place without her..... well you could sleep in seperate rooms and beds and only go to the apt. to sleep and avoid her as much as possible just do this until you find another place because if she cheated once she will do it again and still wont care about YOU or your feelings at all!!!! do you not have any friends tha tare looking for a plcae to stay?? i understand about the mother thing, you dont have to tell her anything until youre ready.
2007-02-15 22:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by ally k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no excuse for that, she can blame you for her infidelity but no matter how its sugar coated its still wrong, obviously her sex life is more important than your love for her ,so keep her around for the help as far as rent and keep on the lookout for the next best thing and when she comes a knockin on your door toss out the cheatin ho and see how she likes it, just when she thinks that she has gotten away with it WHAM send her to the curb , big ocean lots a fish get yourself a keeper, youve got a bottom feeder(no pun intended) i had that happen to me and it made me feel like i was nothing, not good enough and undesirable, it really hurt my feelings i never want to feel like that again, and it sounds like youre setting yourself up for a fall so keep lookin
2007-02-15 21:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by waterboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell your girlfriend how you feel and that you saw the text messages and that why do u think she loves you and why does she say she loves you if she said she did and shes in love with another girl. that doesnt make sence.
2007-02-15 21:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Monica I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is wrong. Period. You should leave her. Especially if you already talked to her about it and she is still doing it. If it's about money then talk to your parents and explain the situation. They should help. Or get loans from friends or something.
2007-02-15 21:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with her or go to counseling there is absolutely NO reason to cheat on someone you supposedly "love"
2007-02-15 21:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask to meet the other girl. kick her in the shins. kick em all in the shins. and watch em cringe, then someone will see what u r doing, ask why, and explain your prob, and get a new friend in yer home
2007-02-15 21:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want a cheater... find a roommate to help with the bill and kick your g/f out..
2007-02-15 21:50:12 · answer #11 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋