he might not be emotionally abusive again until my mom goes back but he's always a control freak even though hm and my mom are SEPERATED he still has power over her and she lets him out of not wanting to argue and fear of his anger and he's also like that with me and my bro....my childhood has been ruined and controlled i don't want my adult life to be like this
but like i said when he gets angry it's **** scary sp how do i break free?
2007-02-15 13:36:46 · 7 answers · asked by mamama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When you graduate from school move someplace far away.
Get a job, find a place to live, be good and don't look back.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-20 06:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are? That is the biggest worry, I absolutely feel for you my dad controlled my life till i was 33 and i have had to cut him off completely to get on with my life. If you have anyone else in the family talk to them, your mum is also very messed up from what i can read between the lines of your question, she also is being controlled by him however as much as you probably want to help her, she has to do that by herself, it is not your fault. have a heart to heart with your mum so she knows how you feel then get help and get away till your strong enough to handle it.
2007-02-22 10:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by squawinpants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad just simply is a BULLY.
What to do with a Bully? You only have to BULLY him once,(STAND UP TO HIM), and he'll back down. Bully's are only as strong as you let him, they are INSECURE about them self's and the only way to feel strong/powerfull is by putting some one else down or CONTROLL.
You're Mom needs some counseling, they will provide her (or you) with the right TOOLS, to expertly handle him.
First though, (if you're and Adult) start by standing up to him.
2007-02-22 22:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a stressful situation. you need to talk to another family member of your trust, so they can convince your mom to seek help.
Maybe she should go to a family counselor , this is not a good Environment for a family to be in
2007-02-22 13:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by bridamelva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how old you are, go live with your Mom? if your old enough, go live in another city. alternatively, just move out and gather the intestinal fortitude to tell him that he doesn't control you anymore.
2007-02-16 01:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
there are places that can help you
If your in school talk to a teacher or counselor
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-02-21 06:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by knight_janette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW SOME BALLS, BE A MAN AND STAND UP TO HIM...THE FIRST TIME YOU REALLY STAND UP TO HIM WILL PROBABLY BE ONE OF THE GREATEST DAYS IN YOUR LIFE..IF HE GETS VIOLENT OR THREATENING..CALL THE COPS....I DARE YOU....GOOD LUCK
2007-02-22 20:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by lata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋