My fiance and I are getting married when he graduates basic training. My question is when he gets through AIT and actually gets stationed somewhere, like on a base am I allowed to move with him? I'd love to ask him but he gets like 4 minute phone calls so there isn't much room to discuss it. Also, will us getting married affect him in anyway?
2007-02-15 13:36:43 · 19 answers · asked by bamababy1519 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Getting married is going to be your most important step at this point, because the military does not recognize fiancees or girlfriends under any special status.
Once the two of you are married, you are entitled to military housing, health benefits, and on-base privileges such as shopping at the commissary and PX, using the base fitness center, library, and any other MWR (morale, welfare and recreation) facilities.
You won't be able to live with him while he's in AIT since that is a school environment, but once he has orders to his permanent change of station, both of you can move to the new base. If there is base housing available for you, you can live on base; if there is no base housing available, you can live off base and you will get a housing allowance based on his status (married), rank, and time in service, as well as the average housing cost of where you are assigned to.
Whenever his assignments change, you will move along with him, unless he is being sent to a combat zone.
2007-02-15 14:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by Abby K9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he is going through his training, stay where you are at. Once he gets assignment to his duty station then it is up to you guys whether or not you want to move with him, but I don't see much point in being married if you are not going to live together. Of course being married will affect him just as it will affect you, hopefully in a positive way. Good luck!
2007-02-15 13:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His pay will change, it'll get higher. And, you won't be able to live with him until he gets his duty station, after AIT. Then there may even be a waiting list for base housing. So, depending on how long he is at his duty station, you may be able to rent a apartment/house. Sometimes, around military bases, there are discounted rates for renting, because you would be military. Good Luck!
2007-02-15 13:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you move with him. They won't split you up unless you chose to stay behind. Family members can live on bases too. I have family friends who all live on a coast guard base in puerto rico.
I'm a daughter of a Coastie, and my family bounced from coast to coast. The other option is "geobaching" (geographical bachelor... get it?) where the guy will leave for a tour or duty either to come home in a little while or to have his family follow him months or a year or two after he goes. This is what a lot of families with kids in schools choose to do, though my parents never took that path.
Best of luck to you and you fiance!
2007-02-15 13:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by megan_of_the_swamp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can live together on or off post. It's when soldier's gets orders for a temporary change of station, such as going to another base for training or Iraq that you can't go. How will getting married affect him? More money, BAH.
2007-02-15 13:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Χαλαρά 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this might properly be a confusing one. i will thoroughly see your element in that the two one in all you the two AGREED earlier than time which you, your son and new toddler might stay positioned. I additionally pay attention that it is your opinion that a circulate to Germany and living house condominium won't be economically sound. those are solid factors that are confusing to argue. the element is, there are thoughts and actual needs in touch in a marriage. each and every so often allowances and sacrifices could be made with the help of one or the two spouses so as the save the marriage (and thus, the family contributors) in solid status. according to threat the stint in Afghanistan has replaced your husband and he needs and needs to be surrounded with the help of his family contributors (you, son, and new toddler). Why might this be too lots to invite of you, his spouse? it may be extra handy which you would be close on your loved ones, yet he needless to say needs the affection of HIS family contributors, which i think of supercedes consequently. you're the two suitable, yet i think of you're able to heavily evaluate a minimum of attempting issues your husband's way. he's been on my own for plenty too long and if he's yearning for his very family contributors then i might respond to that in case you prefer to maintain your marriage healthy. you at the instant are not the only one with needs and comprehend this might properly be a confusing option to be confronted with. i comprehend it incredibly is a confusing selection to make, yet households belong mutually if in any respect conceivable.
2016-09-29 04:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go with him most places but not all. If he's stationed in South Korea, you can't go with. Other than that, you should be able to go, but be prepared for a long wait to get housing depending on where he ends up. Wherever you go, expect to spend more time apart than together and to go possibly for a year or more without seeing him. It sucks, but that's the life of an Army wife.
Money will be VERY tight and it will be difficult for you to find a decent job (meaning not the PX) on base if you don't have any college. If he's stationed overseas, you two should have a long talk to make sure that you guys can afford for you to be over there and if you really want to go. My husband went to Germany right after basic and my parents had to send us money since the Army simply doesn't pay privates enough to support a family on even when there's no kids (it does get better as he moves up in the ranks, but you'll never stop living paycheck to paycheck). We had to live off base for 6 months while we waited for housing (and some people get stuck in off base housing provided by the military), and we couIdn't afford a car, which means I was stuck alone in some little village for weeks at a time without even tv to watch since it was all in German. If you end up in off bas housing overseas, it will be even worse since you will probably not be able to work since you can't afford a car since you don't work (a really vicious circle to get trapped in). Many wives in that situation end up going back to the States and waiting for their soldier to PCS because it is just not possible to get by. I had 2 years of college at the time and it took me about a year to get a job because of the screwy resumix process they use. It was a VERY rough life, so make sure you have a good suppport group both in the militry life and back home with your family. You will need them both.
It's going to be tough, but what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger =).
Congratulations on your engagement and best wishes!
2007-02-15 13:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You getting to move with him will depend on where he gets stationed. If its an unnacompanied tour, than no but if its a regular pcs than yes you will move with him. Getting married will change a few things for him. He will have a dependant and get housing allowance if you live off post with a BAH rate with dependants.
2007-02-16 10:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by mpwife_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting married will give him more money because you are now a military dependent you will be able to live with him in base housing but you must be married first and you have to apply for all of that good stuff with the base.
2007-02-15 14:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by MANDY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The wives go everywhere that their husband is sent except for combat zones.
All children go with him to. I'm sure you've heard the term Army Brats. They get that nickname from moving so much and becomming jaded from moving from school to school.
2007-02-15 13:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋