Why are parents so strict about only childs?

Question

Im an only child and my parents worry about me 24/7. I dont think thats a bad thing but I dont like it that they try and keep me from my freinds, they flip if I get a new boyfreind. Last time I had a boyfreind my mom threatened him by saying she would chop his nuts off with a very dull knife. So my question is why are my parents so strict about me, my freinds, and my boyfreinds?

Answer 1

LOL,

BECAUSE YOUR THEIR BABY!!!!!


Always will be. your like the glue that holds them all together :)


PS, my oldest daughter is only 10, but my husband is going to go crazy when she starts dating.

Answer 2

Some parents can be much too overprotective of an only child, bringing them up with a sheltered life and controlling their childs life too much, and bullying the child. Mine were, and my father would become a monster in an instant, I was afraid of him and my mother was petrefied of him, when he did. I didnt have a normal teenage life, nor in my twenties, was it like it should have been. It was, go somewhere, go with them. I had a disability as a child, but they were quite clueless how to properly deal with the situation, and even when I got over the disability, they still continued treating their low-self-esteemed son the same as they had all along, and not allow me to properly grow up as a man experiencing the world. It wasnt until a work supervisor's 'famous words', 'I think youve been mothered too much', that I cracked onto the life I'd been dealt by my parents, which then for their crap, was game over. In short, some parents just dont know how to be proper parents, or deal with certain circumstances in the right way as a parent, or theyre blinded by selfishness to do it right!
So parents being overprotective can do alot more harm than good, depriving of a 'normal' life.

Answer 3

I don't think so. My dad wasn't there and my mom was on drugs and my grandma is "strict" but forgets how she says she'll never do this or buy this but in the end she does. I am a normal teen but not your average girl. I want tattoos and piercings and can get them but haven't. I don't like girl stuff like heels but love shopping. I rather go to Best Buy or a book store then a wild kegger or sex party.

Answer 4

ohh baby girl, i am now 24 yrs old married and have a baby, i remember those days, my parents are hispanic and if you haven't heard they believe in the old ways....since you are an olny child they charish you to the max sometimes too much but, you are their only baby. I did have a sister and they were so much more lienient with her....i still dont understand why, but honestly as children grow parents don't really know what to do, parenthood doesn't have a handbook or rules so they have to make it up as they go, but to show you who's boss they always try to keep you in check, don't worry, just show them you are super responsible and they'll begin to respect you and your desisions more.....example: show them you can get a job and pay a bill, at the same time show them your responsible with your money, save save save and then take them out to dinner....you just have to learn not to push them away so much, b/c thats when they become more strick.....

Answer 5

they put all their eggs in one basket hon...i under stand i to am an only child... my parnets where not very strict with me. and cutting off someone nuts seems a bit over the top. Maybe a joke? parnets worry its our job. one day(not to soon i hope i'm guessing ur a teen) u will understand that they just want u to grow upstrong and have a good life. and when ur a mom u'll want to threaten boyfriend/ girlfriends as well...

Answer 6

"Im an only child and my parents worry about me 24/7." That would be YOUR parents and not ALL parents of only children. I know I wasn't all that strict with my daughter, yes we had rules that were non-negotiable but they would have been in place no matter how many children we had in the family. If you want to know WHY your parents do certain things you are going to have to ask THEM as they are the only ones who know what is going on in their minds and in their hearts.

Answer 7

You need to show your parents the answers to your question. Also, try watching the Nanny reality show... They are just assuming you do not know the ways of the world... They may need to give your judgment a little more value, depends on the facts... But they also have the right to try to help you, even if they make mistakes...

Answer 8

Don't take it the wrong way. I have only one child and it's because we don't get a 2nd chance. It's only you, we can't fix it or change or make things better with the other siblings so we gotta get it close to perfect the first time. Just try to understand on behalf of your parents "i'm so sorry darling =( "

Answer 9

Its because they dont have any other kids to focus their attention on.
Your parents are worried that you might be hanging with the wrong friends. Your mom wants to chop your boyfriend nuts off because thinks that he is a jerk and only wants one thing from you. ITs not that bad, when you get older, they will get less strict.

Answer 10

Because they are for one over protective, even though I don't really believe that a person can be over protective of their children in the world we live in today. And they only have the one child to focus on. It's a good thing, kids need to be protected and parents need to be strict. At least they care.

Answer 11

You poor thing!

Maybe if you spent some quality time with your mom and listened to her ideas of what a 'nice guy' would be like for you to date, and if you spent time with your dad doing things he likes to do, they would feel closer to you and trust you a little more.

A lot rides on how well you're able to communicate that your friends share your parents' values.