Question for Women: How often do you have to deal with perverts when you are out?

Question

I have a lot of girl friends, and many of them tell me how they have to deal with guys either trying to pick up on them or try to touch them inappropriately on almost a daily basis. You too?

To me, that's horrible that women have to deal with that so often, while as a guy, very seldom have I or any of my boys had to deal with such a situation.

Isn't that sad about today's society? Does anyone have manners anymore? What happened to shivlery -much less simply having respect for for a lady?

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Answer 1

that's sweet of you. "chivalry is dead and women killed it". true, but i don't need the door openned for me or my coat held, i would simply love to be able to perform a simple task like pumping gas without being treated like a piece of meat.

yes i, as a fairly attractive woman, have to deal with this on a daily basis. I can't go out to do ANYTHING without being propositioned. i can't go to the gas station, i can't buy groceries, i can't go to the post office to buy stamps!!! i went to Goodwill to donate some clothes and got hit on by the guy writing my receipt! it really is terrifying when you have errands to run but you're worried because you have no idea who is going to try to take you home today!!!

it wouldn't be bad except the men that do this have absolutely no manners. when i tell them i'm in a relationship they hold me there and try to get in an argument with me about how my man isn't good enough and i should hang out with them instead (WTF!?!?). excuse me, i'm trying to find milk and bread, not a pimp!!

Answer 2

i remember when i was 12 yrs old me and my friends were outside a local theater during the middle of the day on a saturday when a man in his 30s came up and grabbed my chest because him and some friends were betting whether my chest was real or not. i was stunned to say the least and have been wary of men approaching me in public ever since. i try to ignore them but if they fail to understand that i'm not interested i go into defense mode like crossing the street or call it to everyones attention that i'm being bothered by them. even at 41 yrs old i still get bothered almost daily walking down the street. i hate it.

Answer 3

Yes this is true it is very sad. I have to deal with them everyday and it is very irritating . I suppose there is still a couple of people that were raised to have respect. I think it is all the semi-naked girls dancing in MTV nowadays. The culture seems like it is okay to insult and put down women and men.

I receive lots disrespectful comments and I just ignore and don't waste my time trying to change them. All that girls have to do is ignore and defend yourself..

Answer 4

It doesn't happen to me. I've learned over the years to give off a very unapproachable vibe, in my demeanor and posture. When I'm alone I definitely give off the impression that I am not to be bothered. A solid stance, a direct look, and a serious expression along with squared shoulders go a long way. Of course, I'm in love with my husband so my heart is very much unavailable. ;-)

I think older guys can be very respectful, if you let them know you are their equal and don't act submissive.

Answer 5

Nowadays with the clothes that women and girls wear it is a miracle that so many of them don't get kidnapped and raped by the perverts out there. I know you shouldn't have to completely cover up your entire body from head to toe in clothes but it is safer not to show the entire world what needs to stay under clothes. Like womens ****s, you don't need mini skirts that if you bend over just a little will show everything that your momma gave you.

Answer 6

all the time. it's frequent. and it keeps me from being the friendly person i want to be. if i so much as give someone a smile, the guy is all over it as if i had a sign on me that said "AVAILABLE" i can't stand it and i've even acted rude on occasion just to make sure this doesn't happen as often.

this is not to say i'm some gorgeous girl....but, that's sort of my point...it's not a compliment because all i have to do is breath and have boobs and some guy will act creepy.

Answer 7

Yes...Unfortunatly it seems to happen quite a bit. As a female you have to learn to carry yourself in a Don't mess with me manner, and yet some how try to balance it out so you don't scare off nice guys...LOL!!!! All I can say is Ladies...know how to defend yourselves...Good Luck!

Answer 8

I guess I've been lucky. I haven't had to deal with perverts yet. Unless you call boring perverted. All of the men I've met treat me with respect. One even thanked me for getting to meet me. I liked that!!

Answer 9

I don't have that problem. I walk with confidence, determination, I look like I have some place to go. Plus after my last child I gained 40 pounds. That will stop it.

Answer 10

i think a lot of it is male chauvinistic. and the men just do it to express their dominance, perhaps when they see a woman who is holding herself in a confident way. they see it as a challenge, maybe because they feel bored. i just ignore it. but it is annoying.