Do you think it is rude or wrong to invite my family and friends that attended my last wedding? My mom thinks I should be embarrassed to invite them. She also thinks that if they give me a gift that I should be embarrased. Do divorced people have a stigma attached to them? Why should I feel bad or embarrassed that I am getting married again?
2007-02-15 13:31:01 · 20 answers · asked by lc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have a divorce. I have been remarried for 10 years as of yesterday. Dont feel bad or embarrassed. Your family should love and support you. Its wonderful to have a second chance at love. Everyone deserves to be happy and you need to move past your divorce and not allow anyone to make you feel guilty. I wish you lots of love and happiness. Remember its your wedding and its about you not your mom.
2007-02-15 13:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Ilene M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do this every weekend, then yes it would be rude.....lol....by the way you worded your question it sounds like you were married, divorced and married again all in 3 weekends....that would be a bit much.... the only stigma left on divorce is the gift giving part.... most folks object to being asked to come to another shower and another house warming, etc. But everybody loves a wedding. Keep that in mind if there are family members who also gave big wedding gifts (like held the reception, made the cake, paid for music)---they dont usually feel theyshould have to pay a second time...other than that... HAVE A TERRIFIC DAY.....invite everyone who you are still in contact with...its a day of celebration for you and your loved ones, family too (lol).
2007-02-15 15:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorced people do not have a stigma attached to them, not in this day and age. Your friend are your friends, and are probably glad to see you happy with someone again. They aren't going to be embarrassed, you shouldn't be embarrassed, you mom seems to be the only one embarrassed in all this.
As far as the gifts you will get - people get gifts for people getting married, whether they gave one at the last wedding or not. You shouldn't be embarrassed about that either! Get married, be happy, invite your friends, let them share in your joy.
Mom, on the other hand, needs to re-think her mindset!
Congrats! (I got remarried January of 2006)
2007-02-15 13:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not rude or wrong to invite those people that are close to you to your wedding even if they came to your last wedding.
Have you asked her why she feels this way? Did she get along with your ex?
Gifts probably should not be expected, but if someone feels that they want to get you something, that is their prerogative. Gifts are not obligations, they are expressions of the heart.
Do not feel guilty about getting married again. Just make sure this is right for you and work to make this marriage last.
Hope this helps.
2007-02-15 17:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by wedding planner tx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel thrilled about your wedding! And no, there is no stigma.
Regarding your guests.... Are you still friends with them? Are they still part of your life? Is your motivation to include people you care about? (Or is to "show off" you new life to people that knew your ex too.)
I'm assuming it is not the latter, and they would feel excluded if you don't invite them.
As far as gifts, that is up to them. If they have already gifted you, they may choose something more modest this time. But you shouldn't be embarrassed. (I do think "registering" is be a bit inappropriate for a 2nd marriage, but you haven't mentioned that).
Or you could ask for donations to a charity in lieu of gifts. Even your mom can't think that is rude.
2007-02-15 14:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be embarrased. 1/2 of all marriages in America end in divorce. My husband was divorced and we did have some "stigma" problems to overcome. The ex's father didn't think that he should move on, blah blah blah.
Invite the people you are close to and the people that you want to celebrate your special day. If they chose to give you a gift it's because they love you and want to wish you well.
Ignore the stigma. You deserve to be happy.
2007-02-15 13:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel bad for getting divorced and re-married. My ex was an idiot, and my family loves the new guy. They were estatic to come to my new wedding. I don't see what the big deal is as long as that is what you want. I didn't have a huge wedding, but I did have some family and friends on the beach, and they didn't care that I got married before, they were just happy to be part of my new life with my new husband.
2007-02-15 13:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sara Smiles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your mom is more old school
it is not wrong to invite the same people who attended your first. both my sister and my brother have been married twice and the same people were invited, do not feel bad or embarrassed, because if you are than what type of friends or family are they
2007-02-15 14:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 05:53:00 · answer #9 · answered by winkles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if that is a bad thing then I'm in the wrong too!!!!
There is nothing wrong with remarring? Why is your mothe opposed to it? Does she not like this new man?
is she still hopefull that your still be with the other guy?
Your mother of all people shoud be being supportative not telling that you and your idea's are imbarrasing?
My family wants to drive 12 hours for my wedding and that is my problem I want to have a amaller one with the parents and brothers..........
Invite who you want and be proud!!! Never let someone take the glory from your desires and dreams!
2007-02-15 14:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by vcaring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋