My mom and dad will be there and his mom, aunt, and friend will be there. I am excited, but my brother says that people don't like destination weddings. I disagree. Is this selfish on our part? We are having a reception when we get back from Jamaica for our family and friends in our hometown.
If your friend or family member was getting married in a destination wedding, would you be upset if you couldn't stay in the same hotel as them? Would this make you not want to go? To me, it isn't a huge issue.
We are upset because the resort charges $40/person for people to attend a wedding ceremony onsite if they are not staying at the resort. I told him that we will pay for the 4 people coming to go to the wedding. My fiance thinks that this is the reason why his dad and sister is not coming to the wedding. I don't think it is at all. I think they had there own reasons.
We are having a reception for people when we get home. It is not like we ignored our family and friends?
2007-02-15 13:26:32 · 10 answers · asked by lc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think destination weddings are lovely. And usually a lot less stress than a traditional one in a hometown. It's usually the feelings of family/friends who get hurt if there is a destination wedding, but when it comes down to it, it's really no business of anyone's what you do. I think it's wonderful you will be holding a reception for friends and family when you get back. Enjoy your ceremony and honeymoon and have a wonderful reception with family and friends. Best wishes.
2007-02-15 15:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by stseukn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am having a destionational 1 year anniversary wedding in Maui as well. Only my brother, fiance's (will be husband in a week) sister, my mom and step dad willl be there.
Everyone else is all upset about the cost. Even though they had a year and half to save up for a extremly discounted cheap airfair/hotel. ($800 per person for 5 night, 6 day that includes air/hotel, plus I am paying for snorkling/whale watching, luau etc. That is CHEAP).
That is their loss and not going to be made guilty for a choice they have an option of attending while I/husband am paying for 3/4 of it.
We are also having a reception when we get home too.
Him and I are getting married in Vegas and we know they will have excuses for that too. So, not bothering telling a lot of people.
I don't think it is selfish. Your wedding and nothing wrong with having the wedding of what you want to have memories for a life time.
Don't want to look back and say "I wish I wouldn't of planned my wedding around everyone else's needs instead of my own". Especially if you plan your wedding of what other's prefer and some don't bother to even show up.
2007-02-15 16:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother-in-law got married in Vegas last year, like 2 months after we bought our home. We were the only immediate family that couldn't afford to go. Personally, since I have no interest what-so-ever in Vegas, I probably wouldn't have gone even if I could've. I also opted out of the reception because they held it on mother's day weekend and I had a free concert to go to that night. They also never offered to pay any of our expenses, which if you're going to hold a destination wedding, maybe you should consider if you want certain people there?
My brother, on the otherhand, moved the wedding date up 6 weeks because her brother is going into basic training AND they gave us two nights paid in a hotel room in the town where the wedding is (we would've probably drove home. It's about 70 miles from where we live) so we could stay locally the night of the grooms' dinner and the wedding. They obviously want all the siblings there.
2007-02-15 13:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think destination weddings are great if you are loaded but the truth is a lot of friends and family cannot afford to go to Jamaica. I wanted to get married on the beach but most of our family wouldnt be able to afford it and they wanted to be part of our wedding.. they feel left out.
I dont think its selfish really, it is your wedding afterall but a lot of people who want to share in your day will miss it.
2007-02-15 13:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by PenguinsWife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is YOUR wedding right? WHO CARES what other people think...they are being selfish especially if your having a reception once you get back. This is YOUR day. YOUR going to remember it FOREVER. Seems like the closest people are going to be there with you. Forget what the other's think this is about you and your other. Dont sweat it (thats someone elses job) its going to be one of the happiest days of your life, enjoy it!!!
BEST OF LUCK!
Sara
2007-02-15 13:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by sarajanicew 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not selfish.....I did the exact same thing and had a "weddingmoon" in Jamaica then we had a big party when we came home. It was the best time and I have no regrets.
2007-02-15 16:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by shivers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bro is getting married in Hawaii at the end of the summer. my sis said she cant make it because its too much money. but my bro said oh well if u come u come if u don't u don't hes getting married and he would for everybody to come but if they cant make it oh well. that the type of tough skin u have to have when u have a destination wedding good lucck
2007-02-15 13:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's selfish, but don't be upset when people don't come..Maybe they can't afford the price of it all. So enjoy yourself if this is where you want to be married.Congrats!
2007-02-15 13:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by ibsawdust 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all comes down to money!! $$$$
Enjoy your wedding
Elope, be "selfish"!!
It's your day!
YOU are going to have a reception when you get home.
Just call it a private ceremony
I wouldn't spend the money to attend.
You'd have to pay my way, even if i were your AUNT!!
Sorry, but people have right to agree to disagree.
AND when it comes to how we spend our Money--
it's up to us.
Going to Jamaca, to see you get married for 20 minutes,
isn't worth the expense, travel, etc. to many people.
sorry -- i hope you wanted the truth.
and that money I would've spent to Jamaca, will go a lot loner when you get home!!
;)
2007-02-15 13:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lilly 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it is your wedding not theirs and if they dont like it they can get stuffed. your wedding day is about you and your partner not every one else. they should feel honored that you are including them on YOUR special day. tell them to get over themsleves. you seem to be surrounded by selfish people that are trying to push their ideas on to you and your partner.IT IS YOUR DAY NOT THEIRS.
2007-02-15 13:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋