hi im 19yr old girl and im way to shy to have sex
im a confident girl! dont think im ugly but paranoid of my body underneath clothes!
no one that knows me would think this of me as im one of the loudest you see in the pub. will dance away in the club and find it so easy to talk 2/ flirt with guys but when it comes down to it i dont even dare go on top! ashamed of me body. im size 12 34b but hate it! what can i do! i made me last ex wait 3 months and i still didnt go on top!
2007-02-15 13:21:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl come on! we all have our insecurities...i love my body, curvey small waist nice boobs...but i have cellulite!! i always have, even when i was a twig 12 year old...its in my genes. i hate it and im so insecure about it...but when im in the mood i dont really care...i know the guy is in to me and duh he is just happy to be having sex lol. im 19 too so i know how it is to not be completely comfortable w/ sex but seriously just let your self go...they guy knows what u look like already and if u show insecurity he will be even more turned off then u already assume he is (which im sure he is not) i had a recent experince...this guy wanted to do it w/ the lights on and i was like uhh...can u dim the lights lol...i didn't tell him to turn them off cuz that shows isecurities....just to dim them. if ur not ready though then dont do it....just dont wait ur WHOLE life to climb on top...ps im still not complelty sure what im doing up there lol but that will come too...it's all good.
2007-02-15 20:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way about myself and i was with my bf for 6 years and had a child with him,i felt so horrid on top and kept imagining what his view was like and that made it hard for me to gget going if you know what i mean.
But your only a size 12 i`m a 14 and not very tall and my baby bulge hasn`t budged so i have more to worry about!!
I am now single and have all this to worry about too so your not alone,i`ve never been with anyone other than my ex so i`m really nervous and paranoid about it to but hopefully when the right man comes along it`ll be fine!!
2007-02-15 14:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by onlyme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only 19 iam 22 at your age i felt exactly the same but with out sounding chessy when you find the right guy who you trust it will be easier to take your clothes off. men during sex are thinking yes there is a naked girl underneath or on top of me but they would also be thinking i hope she doesnt think my penis is small iam lasting as long as i should hows my technique ect. my friend who is bigger than size 16 when she first went out with her boyfreind who she has now been with for 3 years felt the same way because of her size, and she came back from having a shower and dropped her towel in frount of her boyfreind and said ta da which obviuolsy did the trick because they then had great sex. alternatively if this is too scarey an idea with your try having sex by candle light as its the most flsttering on the naked body. and as for having sex ontop it is the nicest way in most of my friends and my opinion so your missing out.
2007-02-15 13:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i was with someone from when i was 16-21 and she was the only person i was comfortable with. And when we finally broke up I found it hard to be with someone else. And not until a girl basically raped me lol did i feel confident and comfortable enough to want to do it... but you need to find someone who makes you feel special enough to be confident in your own beauty .... or just get drunk to the point where is does not matter to you...i did that a few times at first....
2007-02-15 15:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Cheeks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pole dance lessons?
Seem to be the best cure for shyness and getting out of the straight jacket.
Mostly caused by relgious repressive parents.
Also do much more 3rd base stuff and silly fun like strip poker games etc
2007-02-15 20:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no-body is perfect. we all have small defects and things we feel are not right.
please do not let your fears of rejection or difference stop your chances of finding love and companionship. a relationship is accepting your partners problems and sharing in the things that make you stronger.
2007-02-15 21:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-20 03:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound great to me ,but I'm old enough to be your father.
once your truly comfortable with your chosen partner I'm sure you'll be just fine.
You just need someone who's compatible both physically and mentally.
Wish I could be your teacher lol
Good luck and best wishes
2007-02-15 13:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by Zenlife07 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can show you how sex is, i was a shy guy to and very loud, like you, at all parties.
2007-02-15 13:25:17 · answer #9 · answered by popular_bond 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
give it time i never used go on top either but its really good when you do!
2007-02-15 21:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋