Emotional Issues?

Question

I have been way to emotional latley. I can just sit down and start to cry and cry. I have strethed away from all my friends. I feel that I am the only one that understands me. What is my issue? Please hurry and tell me.

Answer 1

You sound depressed. I suggest you sit down in a quiet place and write down how you are feeling and then go back to see when these feelings started. What was happening then? Who was involved?

You may find something upset you or you are angry about something. Work through your feelings and understand that you need to be with friends and family for support, that is why they are in your life.

If you get worse, I suggest you see a counselor for talk therapy to find out what your issues may be that are troubling you.

We are in the winter months, and some people have a hard time with the darker days, no sun, etc. Get as much sun light as you can, eat healthy and get some exercise too.

Answer 2

Did something occur recently that has you looking into your head instead of out. Take a walk and look at letterboxes, trees, cars, ants, make sure you really look. This should be continued until you feel yourself brighten up. This procedure and more can be found in Tools for the Workplace by Ron Hubbard. I got my wife out of a crying fit from 9000kms away. This I have seen work on drug addicts as well. I believe it originates from an American Indian process to handle sick individuals in their tribe?!

Answer 3

Peace can be attained only by accepting and absorbing the painful, not by rejecting it. By rejecting it you will be in a constant inner war, a civil war; one hand will fight the other, and you will simply dissipate your energy.

A very fundamental thing to be remembered: only communion with psychological pain opens the door for its liberation and transcendence. All that is painful has to be accepted; a dialogue has to be created with it. It is you. There is no other way to go beyond it; the only way is to absorb it.

It has tremendous potential. Anger is energy, fear is energy, so is cowardice. All that happens to you has a great momentum, a great quantity of energy hidden in it. Once you accept it, that energy becomes yours. You become stronger, more spacious. You have a bigger inner world.

Psychological pain ends only by accepting it in its totality. It does not exist just because of the presence of some stimulus or reality termed painful. Rather, pain is produced by the interpretation of the fact or reality. This interpretation produces the tendency to avoid or resist that fact. Try to understand it: psychological pain is your own creation.

You go on condemning cowardice. It is because of that interpretation and condemnation that pain arises. Cowardice becomes a wound. You cannot accept it, and you cannot destroy it by rejecting it. Nothing is destroyed by being rejected; sooner or later you will have to cope with it. Again and again it will erupt, again and again it will disrupt your peace.

Only when the mind recoils from a fact or reality is there pain. You are recoiling from the facts of cowardice, fear, anger and sadness. Don't recoil. Psychological pain is part and parcel of the process of escape and resistance. Pain is not inherent in any feeling. The moment you decide to reject something, pain arises.
Watch it inside yourself, become a lab of great experimentation. Just see: you are feeling fear. It is dark and you are alone, and for miles there is nobody.

Now there are two possibilities. One is, reject the fear. Hold yourself tight so you won't start trembling with fear. Then the fear becomes painful: it is there and it hurts.

The second is, enjoy it. Tremble. Let it become a meditation. It is natural – the night is dark, danger is so close by, death can happen any moment. Enjoy it! Once you accept it, trembling is a dance. You will be surprised: if you cooperate with the trembling, if you become the trembling, all pain disappears. In fact if you tremble, instead of pain you will find a great upsurge of energy arising in you. That's exactly what the body wanted to do.

Why does trembling arise? Trembling is a chemical process; it releases energy, it prepares you to fight or take flight. The body is releasing chemicals into the blood; it is preparing you to face some danger. Maybe you will need to fight, or maybe you will have to run away. Both will need energy.

See the beauty of fear: it is simply trying to prepare you to accept a challenge. But rather than understanding fear, you start rejecting it. You say, “Remember what Osho used to say: ‘There is no death, the soul is immortal.’ An immortal soul, and trembling? Remember! Don't tremble; hold yourself in control!”
Now you are creating a contradiction. Your natural process is that of fear, and you are bringing ideals to interfere in the natural process. There will be pain because there will be conflict.

Don't bother about whether the soul is immortal or not. Right now the truth is that fear is there. Listen to this moment, and let this moment take you totally, allow this moment to possess you. Then there is no pain. Then the fear is a subtle dance of energies in you. It prepares you – it is a friend, it is not your enemy.

Your interpretations go on doing something wrong to you. Essentially, the feeling of psychological pain is created by the attempt to split the unity of consciousness into a duality: an observing entity which tries to run away from, distort, or overpower a rejected feeling. If consciousness in duality is the cause of the pain, then only consciousness in unity is the end of pain.

This split that you create >>

This split that you create between the feeling – the fear, the anger – and yourself makes you two. You say, “I am here, the observer; and there is pain, the observed. I am not the pain.” This duality creates pain.

You are not the observed, you are not the observer; you are both. You are the observer and the observed.
Don't say, “I am feeling fear”; that is a wrong way of saying it. Don't say, “I am afraid.” Simply say, “In this moment I am fear.” Don't create any division.

When you say, “I am feeling fear” you are keeping yourself separate from the feeling. You are there somewhere far away, and the feeling is around you. This is the basic disunity. Say, “I am fear,” and watch. That's actually the case! When fear is there, you are fear. It is not that sometimes you feel love. When love is really there, you are love. And when anger is there, you are anger.

This is what Krishnamurti means when he says again and again: “The observer is the observed.” The seer is the seen, and the experiencer is the experience. Don't create this division of subject and object. This is the root cause of all misery, of all split.

One must not judge, one must not label or have any kind of desire or goal in regard to what arises in consciousness. There must be no sense of avoidance, resistance, condemnation, justification, distortion or attachment in regard to what arises, but only a choiceless awareness. Then self-communion is established.

Choiceless awareness is the ultimate key to open the innermost mystery of your being. Don't say it is good, don't say it is bad. When you say something is good, attachment arises, attraction arises. When you say something is bad, repulsion arises. Fear is fear, neither good nor bad. Don't evaluate, just let it be so.
When you are there without condemnation or justification, in that choiceless awareness all psychological pain simply evaporates like dewdrops in the early morning sun. And a pure, virgin space is left behind.

This oneness that is left behind when all pain disappears, when you are not divided in any way, when the observer has become the observed, this is the experience of god, samadhi, or whatever you will. In this state there is no self as such, because there is no observer-controller-judger. One is only that which arises and changes from moment to moment. Some moments it may be elation, other moments it may be sadness, tenderness, destructiveness, fear, loneliness....

In reality there is no other self to whom a particular feeling is happening. There is only the feeling itself. Meditate over it: there is only the feeling itself. Thus, nothing can be done about what is experientially arising in the moment. There is nobody else to do anything.

Whatsoever is, is, whether you accept it or not. Your acceptance or rejection makes no difference at all. If you accept it you have joy arising in you, if you reject it you have pain. But reality remains the same. You may have psychological pain; that is your creation because you were not able to accept and absorb something that was arising. You rejected truth; in rejection you became a prisoner. The truth liberates. Reject truth, and you will remain more and more imprisoned.

Answer 4

Without getting more information it would be very difficult to discern what your "issue" might be. The best thing to do is go to your doctor, and discuss your problems. When all the physical possibilities are ruled out, then you need to deal with issues.

Best of luck and I hope you feel better.

Answer 5

You should definitely let your Dr. know, and then go from there. You could be experiencing depression. The isolation and sad mood is part of being depressed.

Don't keep it to yourself - let professionals assist.