Can someone give me some advice on coping with stress from school?

Question

Im just starting to stress out to much over h/w and friends...

Answer 1

Here is the question, which subject do you like the least? When were you last doing well in that subject? Just before that point you will find a misunderstood word! This word will cause confusion or slow progress thereafter. The Technology of Study by Ron Hubbard explains this and how to solve it. This is only one cause of stress. Ive found as a tutor this is the main cause.

Answer 2

I'm assuming you're in high school? I'm going to take a guess on the homework part.

I'm 42, and personally, I think schools are giving out much more homework than they used to. Or maybe just for the younger kids. Also, I read stories on how kids are taking on way too many activities to look impressive when they apply for college. Or killing themselves to get all A's, whatever. So take a study hall! That way you won't have so much homework to take home with you.

I say, don't sweat it so much. In 10 years, nobody is going to care what your grades are, and mostly no one will care what college you went to, either (except for graduate school, if you go that far. And then your undergraduate college STILL doesn't matter very much). So if you are trying to be an overachiever, lay off a little bit! And I say this as a person who DID go to graduate school, for physics. I learned so much just doing things I loved in addition to a pretty good/only fair job on my homework. But I never OVER did it, like it sounds like many people are doing today. (Oh, and stuff I have read in US News & World Report and Newsweek over the years has made it clear that the college you go to has little bearing on your future success. What DOES have a bearing is going to a college that you like. I say, go to a smaller school, the more time you spend with professors in small classes, the better. They hone your thinking skills).

Friends wise, I never really stressed out over them. If a friend is constantly stressing you out, are they really a good friend? (depends).

Ok, and then there is listening to music, exercising, put on a sweater if you are anxious (hard to feel anxious if you are overwarm) and all those things.

good luck!

Answer 3

take some time out for yourself. go for a run, or just sit in a park and read by urself for a while. if homework is stressing u, mayb u dont understand the work, or mayb ur gettin too much. talk to ur teachers and let them know that u have heaps of homework for another subject. if its assignments etc, see if u can get an extension. if its affecting ur stress levels, and they need to give u one. if its causing sleep problems etc, go to the dr and get a med cert so that the teachers must give u an extension.

time management can also help, mayb ur leaving everything til the nite before its due. start earlier. it will all help. create a time table and clearly mark an assessment piece or other significant day.

u have problems with friends, when stuff happens, just walk away, dont stand and fight. u dont need that sort of stress. find another "real" friend and talk ur problems thru. they mite even be able to give u more advice, or let u hang out with their friends.

i guess if necessary, u can always talk to a counsellor at school, to me they never seem to work, and they can seem to be daunting. if ur not comfortable with ANYTHING, then dont do it.

if ur out somewhere, and u can feel urself gettin stressed. take 5 min to do a simple relax. close ur eyes, picture and hear the ocean, breathe deep and concentrate on ur breathing. do it for a few minutes and totally chill out.

hope it helps.

Answer 4

well, if you are stressing over hw then maybe you should fine time to just take some time to yourself. Without any friends or anything. I know friends are important but they aren't everything in your life. especially when it comes to shcoolwork and all. If youspend like every weekend with your friends, maybe you should take a couple weekends off or something. Ask them not to bother you with all of their problems and gossip because you have more important things to worry about. Don't Sweat It!!!!! I get stressed all the time. But when I do I just take a break. Try it out... You'll be amazed!!!

Answer 5

OK. Put homework first. Nevermind the friends and their problems, they can get you off the course you know you need to be on. don't be stupid and allow that to happen. So, set the time for homework. Let them know what times you will not be available ahead of time and do not get distracted during this time. Then set aside time for them. They will appreciate the knowing, or they should if they are your friends...if not the oh well.... Than take time for number one... Set aside time at night to relax, listen to music, hang with family or a close friend or two that really get you. Meditate and breathe deep when you get a few minutes to yourself and think positive thoughts. don't try to please everyone. Do the right thing for you. Not the croud. In a few years you might still be friends with a couple of them and that is a big maybe...we all go on with our lives and don't really stay in touch. So, do what is right for you. OK?

Answer 6

I used to feel the same way. You probably just need to get organized. Get an agenda or day planner that you can write your homework in everynight. Also clean out your notebooks and locker. It may not seem like it will help, but trust me its like starting fresh. And your friends should make things better, not worse lol so dont sweat them if they are fighting just give them time and theyll get over it.

Answer 7

I hate school read my question I asked. whats wrong withyour friends what are they doing?

Just listen to some soothing music like Pink Floyd "Dark Side Of The Moon' album it always works for me, i'm in 9th grade.

Answer 8

Exercise.

Answer 9

Sure. Easy.

Read this book: "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle.

Answer 10

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.