is the daycare responsible or the parents?

Question

my nephew goes to a daycare where a boy scratches and bites the other children and my nephew is mostly the victim of these attacks. is the daycare responsible for doing something about this behaviour or is it the parents at home that are responsible?

ps. the daycare has taken no actions to prevent this activity and they just send my nephew home when this happens. the other kid gets to stay at the daycare.

Answer 1

What a great question to answer, since i work at a daycare and unfortunately the same thing happened to me.
When you have more than 8 children at your care, its difficult to be watching every single move that each child is making, you can prevent it by teaching them how to socially interact but sometimes you can not get the support and reinforcement of what we teach from the parents at home.
The daycare is responsible for anything that happens to the child while they are at the facility, but since the scratches were not inflicted by the teachers but by a child, i think you should talk to the director of the daycare and to the teacher who was in charge at the time so they can talk to the parents of this supposedly anxious little boy or directly to him , everything can be solve with communication, and do not, i repeat, do not pay attention to the answers to this question, they are absolutely crazy, one answer said that it was time to look for another daycare, i assure you that every daycare in the universe has a scratching kid.
Another answer said to call their licensing agency. are you kidding me? what are you? The devil?, why would you do that? so they can take their license, and close the daycare down? when everything could have been solved with a little communication?.
I hope you follow my advice of discussing this matter with the daycare director.

Answer 2

Some daycares do better jobs of raising kids than the actual parents do. I know far too many stay at home parents who put their kids in front of the tv for most of the day. Daycares (at least the ones that I know of) do not put tv on, and actually sit down with the children and play and stimulate them. Also - they don't have the added responsibility of doing the housework, cooking, cleaning, errands etc as parents do. That said, a good parent can do a better job at home. But the option isn't always there! If a parent does not want to, or is financially unable to stay at home with their child, doing it will usually cause more harm than good.

Answer 3

The daycare is in charge! When my girls were in daycare if ANYTHING physical happened to them (self inflicted fall or other child hitting, etc.) they would have to fill out a form and then we would get a copy of it and a copy would go in their file. If the injury was from another child the parents didn't get involved, the for was anonomous about the "abuser" because it could just create more problems. From your story there doesn't seem to be any reason to send your nephew home. I would suggest talking with the teacher in his room and seeing what he/she has to say. Try to find out whats happening and what they are doing about it. If you're not getting the answers that you want or it continues then going to the director would be the next step.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

ok, let see... I own and run my own daycare and if this was happening at my daycare, I would speak to the parents right away about this, I would make them aware of their childs biting and scratching, being done to the other children. Then I would make sure I am monitoring the child very closely and if I see that this is a habit and the child is contuning to perform these habits, I would then speak to the parents again and let them know something has to change or that child will be asked to leave the daycare until he is no longer biting and scratching other children. The childcare provider should do all that is possible to prevent this from happening. Parents should let their child know this is not accepted and explain to the child the best they can that these habits hurt and that it is not allowed! It is actually both of their responsibilties to try and correct this behavior. It is important for parents to be able to drop their children off at a dacare and know nothing bad is going to happen to the child/ren at daycare. I personally would be talking to the childcare provider and asking what she/he is doing while this is happened to the other child (your nephew) If the childcare provider is aware of this he/she needs to make it a point to be looking for this kind of things and to be around to prevent them from happening. I understand accidents do happen and children do, do things to other children, but if it is happening over and over again, the childcare provider is slacking on their job and not providing a safe and happy enviroment for your nephew or the other children!

Answer 5

This is a fairly sticky situation.

The daycares hands are basically tied, as they have a hard time disciplining children without the parents going ape. About all they can do is seperate violent children from the others, which is often difficult if it is a small daycare with a limited number of adults for supervision.

Ultimately, the parents are responsible for the child's behaviour and safety.

If the daycare is not doing anything to resolve the situation (counseling with the child's parents, seperating him from the rest of the children, etc) I would say it's time to move your nephew to a new daycare. And this time, research them to make sure they have set procedures in place for how to deal with misbehaving children.

Answer 6

It is the daycare's responsibility. The way they handle things like this now is by telling the biting child's parents, but only if the occurrances are habitual. The daycare providers can only say things like "it's not nice to bite" and "please stop doing that". They do not give timeouts or remove children from the room for bad behavior. This used to happen to my infant when her room was combined with the pre-toddlers. I complained and nothing ever happened. Sadly I am out of country and only had one choice for a daycare provider, so I couldn't remove my child from the situation. I do think sometimes that the parents are not handling things correctly, but it is not my place to judge. All I know is that I have had 3 children and none of them are biters or scratchers!

Answer 7

hey, my son just started daycare and i recently found out that the daycare isnt even allowed to use time out lol, i don't think its fair that your nephew is the one getting sent home, if it was happening to my son (although in all honesty itd be more likely to be my son being the bully lol) i would go straight to the daycare and make sure to have a talk about it, and talk to the other boy's parents too as it should be their responsibility at the end of the day to teach their child what is acceptably behaviour, unfortunately daycare teachers are only teachers they aren't parents and are limited as to what disciplinary measures they can take.

Answer 8

I work in a day care and I would not permit this behaviour to continue. I would be talking to the parents about this child, trying to find the cause and ways to prevent the behaviour. As a parent I would talk to the daycare (document when the incidents happen) and tell them that it is unacceptable!!!! Most daycares are licenced, tell them that if they are not going to take on responsible daycare that you will be in contact with their licencing office.

Answer 9

I think that it is the daycare that should be responsible for this. If your nephew isn't doing anything then he should not be getting blamed for it. They should have a teacher watching. He should not be sent home. Tell his mom and dad to go in and talk with the supervisor.

Answer 10

You should ask for the discipline policy for that school and see if they are following it. Most daycares suspend the child after so many offenses. Someone needs to talk to the teacher and directer and let them know that this will not be tolerated. I was a teacher at a daycare and our policy was to give the child a warning, a parent conference, suspension, and then be expelled if this behavior continues