If you daughter was 16 and she was dating a high honor student who is 17 (offcoarse I'm talking about me) would you be very strict with her. What I'm saying is that for some reason she can't come over to my house and on dates where one of her parents have to drive us (not go on it with us just drive us). Know remember I'm on high honor, I'm a top athlete thats goin off to college next year to train to become a mathematics teacher, and I just got inducted into the Nation Honor Society. Beleive me, I'm trustworthy and am respect by my community. So... would you be that strict if this was your daughter? Explain why or why not please.
2007-02-15 12:57:27 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First of all, I commend you for athletic and academic honors. Never let your desires get in the way of your future.
Now, as a parent, I would absolutely be careful of a 16-year-old, whether male or female.
At 16, you're getting geared up for the rest of your life. PSATs, honor roll, accelerated programs, concurrent enrollment.
Now, I don't necessarily understand not coming to your house and getting to know you. A fine young man should have the confidence of his girlfriend's parents. But at the same time, be prepared to earn your girlfriend's parents' trust.
You're going to have to be the Uber-gentleman. Take it slowly. Don't make demands, but be courteous. She'll be worth the work. Her parents probably want as bright a future for her as your parents want for you.
But biology has a different plan for each of you. If she gets pregnant, historically, it's her problem. So you'll want to dispel those worries. Be a gentleman, a scholar, and a hero. And be patient. It takes a while for the parents of bright girls to get over their fears.
You'll do the right thing. Have faith in yourself.
2007-02-15 13:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by KD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because someone is an honor student and an athelete does not mean that they are necessarily a good person. i am not saying you are a bad person, i would be inclined to say that you are certainly not a bad person since you are taking the time to ask about this. even though you know you are trustworthy, your girlfriend's parents do not. they are merely trying to keep their daughter's best interests at heart. they want to try to keep their little girl safe. your best bet is to be very respectful of their wishes, and be the best person you can possibly be. it may suck that they are being strict now, but if you continue to show maturity and responsibility, and you continue to abide by their rules to the letter, you may find that those rules relax a bit over time. good luck!
2007-02-15 21:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by ??? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is having a boyfriend new to her? Maybe the parents are just overprotective. It sounds a little psychotic at 16 but old-fashioned ppl still live out there. Respect their wishes or if you feel that strongly about it, talk 2 them and tell them why you feel u are so trustworthy. I'm sure they'd appreciate hearing good stuff about you. How long have you guys been dating? that could be another issue...
2007-02-15 21:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I don't trust you. You're a teen-aged male. I was one of those once, so I know what you're thinking. (If you don't have sex on your mind most of the time, you're psychologically unfit.) This is not meant to be mean or rude to you. It's just a simple fact.
There is also the possibility that for some reason her parents don't trust HER. Maybe she did something in the past that she won't tell you about. She could be embarrassed by this.
For now, honor her parent's wishes. This will give you good standing in their eyes.
2007-02-15 21:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by Uther Aurelianus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With your grammar and spelling I highly doubt you were just inducted into the NATIONAL (note the al at the end of the word sweets) Honor Society and I highly doubt you're any where NEAR being an honor student. I guess I can be thankful that my daughter is in college now and won't have "benefit" of your math "skills" as a teacher...I pity the children whom you do teach if you ever make it which I highly doubt anyway. At any rate...why not? Because your simply full of bullshit.
2007-02-15 23:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 6 kids ,two are teens, Boys 18 and girl16. I'm not too strict ,because they tell me everything they do. I don't like to hear,some things. Some parent don't trust ,their kids. No matter, how good look in the public eye. You are still a young ,hormonal GUY. They're after that you will have sex w/ her. I have seen kids w/ parents like that . Most smoke ,drink ,sex and drug, because of their parents. GOD BLESS
2007-02-15 21:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by TCC Revolution 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a daughter that is 5 and i dont think, no i know that when she is 16 i am not going to be over strict with her becasue i know that, that is when she is going to do something wrong. My mom was OVER strict with me and when i was aloud to start dateing and going out i did it all. sex, drugs, skiping school you name it i tried it. and thats how i got pregnat at 17. but ya know i wouldnt change any of it because thats how i became the person that i am today. My mistakes taught me how to be strong and independent. Just be careful and always RESPECT your girlfriend, she deserves that from you.
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2007-02-15 21:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by bogackiag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. My daughter is 17, and she has boundaries. When she had a steady boyfriend, she was not allowed at his house unless I talked to his mother first, and he could only come here if my husband or I were home. Boyfriend was also a good student, college bound and very respectful, but it did not matter. She is my daughter, and it is my job to protect her.
2007-02-15 21:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by Ann S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For someone who is a "high honor student", you have terrible spelling and grammar. It is spelled "now" not "know". It's the National Honor Society. I should know, I was on it when I was in High School. Just because you are a "high honor student" and in atheletics, doesn't make you a saint. Have you tried getting to know her parents? Letting them get to know you? You can't expect them to just trust you without knowing you.
2007-02-15 21:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are still a guy that dosent change no matter what kind of activites you are in sorry to say but you have to respect the parents wishies for now, show them that you are trustworthy and then maybe they will trust you alone with her.
2007-02-15 21:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by TM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋