I mean, he's jealous everytime I talk about a guy other than him or even talk TO a guy other than him. He has a low self-esteem (I can tell this, even though he'd never admit it) and thinks that I would blow him off and run off with any male that's not him. How do I get him to realize that he's really the only one for me? It seems like, even though I constantly tell him this, he will never believe it. Help and Advice please!
2007-02-15 12:52:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to tell you this but this is his problem to fix, not yours. Jealousy is a big fat red flag that tells you that he is controlling and emotionally abusive.
There is nothing you can say or do to cure his jealousy. My advice is to leave the relationship, let him know that his jealousy drove you away, and give him room to grow up. He may accuse you of leaving him for someone else. That is all a part of the control and emotional abuse. Ignore him and move on with your life.
2007-02-15 13:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you've there's a very risky relationship. you're so frightened of loosing him that you're not any further being careful about how being with him makes you experience. in case you are able to not even cope with a pair days without him, that is not any longer solid. in the time he's lengthy gone discover a number of your human being interests and interests and do things you delight in. carry out including your associates because I guess you've lost contact with dissimilar them. Having a boyfriend must be an addition on your existence, he shouldn't replace each and everything else. in case you retain on like this, don't be shocked if he feels too smothered and leaves.
2016-12-04 05:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by winkles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend used to be the exact same way!! but you need to make it clear to him that when he's jealous it's a sign that he's insecure with himself and that he needs to be a little more confident and be restassured that you only want him.. it's a matter of trust
2007-02-15 13:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his jealously is creepy. That'll do the trick. Last thing a guy wants, is to for u to think he's creeeepy.
A veiled threat of leaving.
2007-02-15 12:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him that you want to be free to say what u want to say, and that he can't really get jealous any more. just say u like him more than anything and that u would never talk about him behind your back.
2007-02-15 12:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by swimminshark02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him. And if he doesn't mature, this will just get worse with him. Eventually you will feel captive. At first the jealously feels like love and extra attention.
Believe me, he will just get worse.
You can't fix him. If this goes on, you just might have to move on.
2007-02-15 12:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs therapy...Whatever you say, he may not listen....He has very low esteem and may soon be controlling and or abusive...
Unless you get him help, he will always wonder "What is she up to" "Who is she with" and so forth...soon anger takes over and they turn violent
2007-02-15 12:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by diamond_moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is actually his issue to resolve, not yours. it's his insecurity that makes him jealous. all you can do is continue to be who you are, but do not feed in to his jealousy. you can try to compliment him and make him feel confident and secure about himself but it has to be sincere otherwise it might backfire. and it might just be his age. so... good luck.
2007-02-15 12:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like him but have been cured.
Have him read this book. I did and it helped me 100%
http://www.amazon.com/Master-Relationship-Louis-Dominick-Rossano/dp/1593302584/sr=8-2/qid=1171590893/ref=sr_1_2/105-3229029-2109210?ie=UTF8&s=books
2007-02-15 12:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by Alan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him one more jealous outburst and he will be your ex!!
2007-02-15 13:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋