I don't want to love any guy. I don't know why? Maybe because all the guys I have liked, rejected me or is it because my parents had a bad marriage? I have no clue, but every time i like a guy, I tell myself it's not worth it because I'm not good enough for him. What is wrong with me?
2007-02-15 12:41:31 · 19 answers · asked by Karma =] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nothing is wrong with you, you just feel like this because you haven't found the right one yet. you will know when you do, it will hit you when your least expecting it. and don't go by your parents marriage because every marriage is different. some do good and some don't. good luck to you and keep your head up!
2007-02-15 12:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by missaboo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing wrong with you is that you think something is wrong with you. You have low self-esteem which gives you the feeling your not good enough for anyone. You don't want to put yourself on the line of getting rejected because your afraid of getting hurt. You just have to be strong and know that if a guy rejects you it's his problem not yours.
2007-02-15 12:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have conditioned yourself from your past relationships, like you were the one that was inadequate. You have fears that don't allow you to truly express yourself and allow other guys to see the true you. Try to think of it as, those guys were just not right for you. When the right one comes along you will feel like opening yourself. Keep it simple and try not to focus on relationships, but more about your internal issues. If you have issues they will come out in a relationship. Talk to a therapist to get over any insecurities you might have. You are afraid of failing. Once you have that mindset, no relationship will ever work. So focus on yourself to gain some type of self worth, and then you will be able to enter a relationship and not expect someone else to fix you.
2007-02-15 12:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a name like yours, I said to myself. We Scottish people are stronger than that. So forget what kind of marriage your parents had. You have the right to have your own way of doing things. Stop putting yourself down, rise above it. It sounds as if they really did a job on you. You deserve better, and only you can get it,if you really want it. there are some great people out there for you, give it a try. and believe in yourself. Just a wee bit,at a time.Maybe talking to someone will help,
2007-02-15 12:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my son. He says marriage is a wager of who is going to fall out of love first! That is a quote from Cristopher Walkin. I think you truely have to love yourself before you can give it away. Low self esteem. Read the purpose driven life by Rick Warren. I think you will get a better insight on why we are here on this earth. All of us are not meant to be married.
2007-02-15 12:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by ladybugjan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You donot want to love anyone because your parents are not happy and you feel it will be the same for you. Guys have rejected you and you are afraid of more rejection so you keep your self to yourself.
2007-02-15 12:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur problem is low self esteem and maybe insecurity or lack of trust.... if u really want to love men ( who r dogs) then work on those issues.... if u think u can live without it then ur perfect jsut the way u r
be happy tht u arent sitting around n crying like hundreds of women... who go into therapy or act crazy to get attention from the other gender~!
2007-02-15 12:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by ninjagal3000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not good enough for him,?, how do you know? that sounds like you have low self esteem, or yes you were correct, just dont want to risk love which also comes with the risk of being hurt.
tis better to have loved and lost,
than never to have loved at all.
2007-02-15 13:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by JulyBeetle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says you have to be in love or with someone? What's wrong with being single? Pursue a good career, travel with friends, give back to your community, take care of the family you have......enjoy being unattached. Then when you aren't looking or thinking about a man - THE ONE will come......meanwhile enjoy you gift of singleness!
2007-02-18 08:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like low selfesteem and fear of being hurt/rejected. I used to be like this. I suggest taking some time to yourself, don't look for a boyfriend, if someone comes along (they come to you) try it out but don't take it seriously. Really take some time for yourself and friends it really does wonders
2007-02-15 12:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋