We have been together for 4 years and we are only 12. He broke up with me because he said he cant accomplish his dreams if he is with me and also that he have completley different life styles.
Also we got in trouble in school and got suspened for 2 weeks and have to go to court so he is under alot of stress. His mom already hates me and wont let us talk on the phone and now she just hates me more. What can i do to prove to him that he is aspossed to stay with me, we do love eachother and have a very serious realitionship...but i think he is very scared of commiment.
His mom hates me because i am white if that helps.....
So my question is guys and girl what are any ideas that i can say or do that can win him back???
2007-02-15 12:41:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know we are only 12 but we have been through so much in our life time that we are wiser than most adults. We have been through deaths, divorces, births, and about everything else.
2007-02-15 12:54:46 · update #1
And yes we are in love..trust me...we may be very young but i have been through enough and i see my mom go through alot of guys to know if i am in love or not. Please dont be mean
2007-02-15 12:59:20 · update #2
honey, youre 12. youre not going to be with him in 30 years. im sorry, its just that the odds of 2 people who started dating at . . . 8 years old are going to be together forever. i know it hurts, but it wont hurt forever. i have no idea what you did to have to go to court, but that dosnt sound good. if youre meant to end up together, you will. youve got many MANY years ahead of you. right now, just try to stay friends with him, which will give him a chance to resolve any issues he has, and will possibly show his mom another side of you. stay out of trouble too. you know, being friends often leads to being more than friends. and it will last longer if you were friends in the first place!!
2007-02-15 12:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by cyanideprincess0008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 12 years old, now think of all the stuff the both of you have done. Who is the bigger influence. Yes, you are correct the race should not matter at all, but the two of you are no good for each other if you all are causing one another to get onto trouble like that you have your whole life a head of you to fall in love. If you're are so deep in love now at 12 image when you are 16. You can not force love it has to come from the heart. I am not saying do not have relationships with boys just do not have one where you are pulling each other down. You are to young for court. Just live life and be a kid.
2007-02-15 12:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by Bigman's Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight...you started "dating" this boy at 8 years old???? Why weren't you busy playing with Barbies or whatever 8 year olds do these days? Where were your parents??? I do not believe for one minute that either of you are "in love" with each other (you're too old to even know what true love is) and there's NO WAY that a 12 year old is ready for a committed relationship. You ARE NOT supposed to stay together. I think that you need help in trying to find out why you feel the way you do and why you aren't acting like a 12 year old. What about going to the movies with your friends, going to the mall, having a crush on a movie star or a music star, etc.???
2007-02-15 12:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by Vicky L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you will hate to hear this, but you're 12 for goodness sakes. How can either of you seriously talk about your futures ?? How about getting through middle school first. If this is really as real as you say it is, then it will still be real when you get to high school! I know you think it's the end of the world, but it will only get worse. If you are going to court now, then god only knows if you'll be able to finish school together. You have got to live YOUR life !!! You are too young to have this kind of relationship stress.One more thing, I don't think color has as much to do with this as your age. I'm sure his mother is worried about the seriousness of you two.
Take care and good luck.
2007-02-15 12:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Johanna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is RIGHT!!!
You can't reach your dreams and goals if you are so involved with a relationship at such a young age that you don't focus on the important things at this age.
At 12 years old, you should be meeting lots of different people, not setting your sights on a single person. And they should be friends, you shouldn't be dating for several more years yet. You should take this time as a teenager to focus on school and learning what personalities you enjoy being around the most.
You have to build a foundation before you can build a house.
And you haven't even laid your cornerstone yet.
2007-02-15 12:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry young lady. You are far too young to be talking about committment and love. For god sakes you are only 12. You have any idea how much both of you are going to change in the next 8 years. I certainly hope you haven't done anything sexual with this boy.
A 12 year old boy talking about not being able to accomplish his dreams because of you. I am sorry but niether one of you know sh*t about sh*t. Move on and stay away from the boys for awhile.
This is what TELEVISION is doing to the youth of this country.
2007-02-15 12:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by trichbopper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are 12
2007-02-15 12:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth were you "dating" at 8? There is something wrong there. Stop worrying about boys and focus on doing good in school. By the time you are old enough to get married, you will look back at this and wonder what the heck you were thinking!
2007-02-15 12:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there is any thing to mend your heart but to prove to him that you should be together give him his space for a while.I went through something exactly like your situation a few months ago and I have to say it isn't easy.Just let things die down between you two.Also if you pretend to be mad at him it is quite possible that he will realize that it isn't the color of your skin that really matters it's whats in your heart.
2007-02-15 12:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what color you are, you are ony 12 you have lots more years to go before you get out of school and believe it or not you will meet several more boys in school and you will no longer be interested in your childhood friend so leave him alone you have got to grow up and he needs to stay out of trouble while he is in school because it will affect him if he wants to go to college.
2007-02-15 12:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋