My gf and i have been together nearly 3 years having met at university. Last September she got an offer to study at a university in Chicago, starting in January - an offer she couldn't refuse. I was and still am delighted for her. I am now visiting her for the first time in the USA. Both of us were so looking forward to it, but after my first day here she has become more and more distant from me. She says it is because she has had to develop a thick skin as a survival mechanism. I am trying so hard to just be there for her, but I'm scared of pushing her away at the same time. We have talked about it and try to understand each other's feelings but it doesn't seem to be doing much to alleviate my anxiety. I live in the UK and couldn't move for work and financial reasons. We speak and e-mail nearly every day via the net. I love her to bits, but I don't know how to be around her anymore. We're still committed to each other,but it is so hard. Does anyone have any tips for surviving LDR's?
2007-02-15 12:31:53 · 2 answers · asked by arthur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry, i know i shouldn't be answering. it never worked for me ever. i just have to say LDRs are so special, but it's going to be unfair for both of you all the time...
2007-02-15 12:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Beanie.beanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience all you can do is not get frustrated and be calm. Just be how you are now and be there for her and everything. Just know that eventually you two will be back in each others presence and not so far away. the reason why it was weird when u 2 were around each other is just like she said shes tryin 2 develop a thick skin, which like i said i know from experience if shes anything like me that means she doesnt want 2 get 2 close and then have 2 be apart from u 4 to long it will hurt 2 much. u 2 just keep in touch ok?!!!! i wish your relationship the best of luck!!!
2007-02-15 12:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋