I really like my friend, she's fun and I'm always happy when I'm around her even when I'm down. I really want it to be more but I'm scared I'll lose her forever. I know she has fun when we're together but I don't want to say anything. I've been giving hints but nothin's comin out of it. What should I do? I can't stop thinking about her.
2007-02-15 12:30:17 · 22 answers · asked by holden68prem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's sometimes easier for friends to become lovers than for lovers to become friends.
If she is a good enough friend to fall in love with, trust her. Talk to her. You may find she has the same feelings and is likewise scared to do anything about them.
Or not. In which case, don't get weird - you still have a friend. You may change your feelings. So may she. Or not.
And you'll still have a friend.
When I was in college there was this girl who thought I was the answer to her dreams. I was not interested. A couple of years later I was ready to bring her the moon, wrestle alligators, whatever she wanted. SHE wasn't interested.
And the result is that we have been great friends for years, I was at her wedding and the guy she married is also now a great friend. We both sometimes wonder what if - but it didn't, and we stayed friends and she is a joy in my life.
Talk to her.
2007-02-15 12:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your problem here is that you're making this too much of a deal. If you two have fun together and all that jazz then ask her out. If rejection seems to happen then so be it. Get over it and move on. If it is successful then it's an experience to receive. And if everything just blows up in your face then just know something better is on its way.
2007-02-15 20:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by debah v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Its the only way to get things started. She could be too shy to make a first move. And shes most likely waiting for you! So step up, and talk to her about it. The worst she can do is tell you she wants to be friends, but you know, theres other fish in the sea so dont worry about it. But if she drops you altogether because of it, shes not a true friend and you dont deserve that.
So TALK to her about it. :-) Best of luck!
2007-02-15 20:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by jalfjaljfaljfja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda depends on how long you have been friends..
if its a newer friendship, the feelings may be mutual and i would tell her how you feel without creeping her out..
but if youve been friends for a long time, its probably too late to bring it up, and theres a higher chance of losing that long friendship..BUT overall id say you have to tell people how you feel..i mean, pretend they move across the world tomorrow or even die and they never knew....think about it..good luck
2007-02-19 00:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by metalheads007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT. Trust me man, i learned the hard way. If you do that you will lose her forever. There is someone else out there you just have to open your eyes and look around. Trust me i have been down that alley and its NOT WORTH IT!
2007-02-15 20:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her.....tell her you like her (alot) and you think about her and she makes you feel happy all the time.....even when your down......tell her you want to be more than friends but tell her you dont want to lose her and you want to always be with her........
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hope you have good luck
and lots of XOXOXOXs
.......and dont listen to the people who say you will lose her fovever if she is a nice girl she wont leave you
2007-02-15 20:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by â?¥ ~soccer luver~ â?¥ aka Zoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to her. i went through the same thing and didnt take the chance. years later i told her and she was with somebody else and said she felt the same way. but it was too late and i should have said something. i hope you dont make the same mistake that i did and seize the day. the best of luck to you.
2007-02-15 20:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by 9thwonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you go out with a friend it ends in tears because if you split up you have lost a girlfriend and a friend
2007-02-15 20:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by kittiebann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never kno how she feels if u dont say something. tell her. see how she feels. if u keep ur feelings inside, bad things could happen. if it turns out she doesn' t feel the same way, then it doesn't mean u cant be friends nemore.
2007-02-15 20:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by actorboi10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a problem like this to. I would say I would want him to send me something as like a card or something and (this is for you) If she asks if it's from you she's probably crushing on you to.
2007-02-15 20:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋