Any one else raising their parents?

Question

I have been taking care of my mom since 1993 and she is constantly lashing out at me. She has has 1 bad stroke & 5 heart attacks. She just gets nastier & nastier and I am tired of it. My sister was supposred to step in and help but is busy being shacked up with her boyfriend and we have her kids. Not sure I want her to have mom. What can I do? Ususally it is ok but there are times when it's so bad, I just want her gone. I don't really, but I am at my wits end. Please only kind suggestions, been sick for 6 months so everything is hitting me wrong.

My mom is very parinoid and can think we are bugged by the gov't 1 minute to thinking that she is the biggest martyre on Earth the next. I would never put her in a home. My grandma, her mother has Alzheimer's and I am not sure if mom is showing symptoms of that or just senility. It isn't like I can send her to her room for misbehaving, she is my mom. I do love her, she has managed to just really piss me off tonite & I just need to vent. Thanks for listening.

Answer 1

i'm not raising my parents...nor my in-laws...YET. but i know that day will come sooner or later. anyway, i know this is easier said than done, but hey, your mom took care of you when you were little. just think about all the things she did for you: changing diapers, feeding you, dealing with your tantrums, etc. etc. i'm also a mother of a two-year-old, and there are times that he becomes so nasty i want to throw him out of the house and banish him for the rest of his life...and regret the thought of it later. so if your mom becomes out of control, think about all the nice things she did, and remind yourself that she did not give up taking care of you, so you shouldn't either...see a doctor for some advice about ur health...take a short time out...even if it's just a 5-minute walk in a park...if she is able to listen to reason then you can talk to her about her behavior...if u feel she won't understand and will just feel worse then don't talk about it anymore...just be patient with her not only because she's sick but because she is your mother...and pray a lot for both of you...