yesterday he didnt talk to me, and it was valentines day. i told him that he hurt me and i wanted to break up but then he told me that he really loved me and didnt want me to leave him. according to him, he slept all day because he worked all night. i want to be with him but what if he just keeps hurting me? he tells me he loves me all the time but im having serious problems trusting him. i want to work it out and i want to trust him. we've only been dating for 2 weeks. will it be worth it if i try working it out with him?
2007-02-15 12:26:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive known him for awhile, we were friends before we were dating.
2007-02-15 12:40:31 · update #1
Sometimes people make mistakes...forgive him..
Maybe he did oversleep, is he a hard worker? How can you blame him for that?
Is this your only reason for breaking up? You don't trust him?
Unless you have any other reason, perhaps you should work it out
2007-02-15 12:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by diamond_moon 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only time will tell if it is really worth working it out with him. In the meantime, I would suggest breaking up with him. If he really loves you he will come back to you, and by that I mean truly show you he loves you, not just saying it and asking you not to break it off. You need to break it off so you can try it by yourself or maybe with someone else. It is true when they say there are other fish in the sea. You need have someone who truly loves you. Lots of people can talk the talk but they can't walk the walk. Good luck and I'm sorry you had a bad Valentines day.
2007-02-15 20:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by cellgirl82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understandably yesterday was Valentine's Day, but how can you honestly base a relationship on a gift or some kind of special attention once a year? 365 days a year we have to be with our mates, base each day on you affection for each other. It should mean more to get that little love attribute a day you don't expect it and it should not be expected. If he isn't giving reason to believe he is a cheater, liar, abuser, then why not stick it out? Why not show your concern by stating your concern for the fact he was tired.
2007-02-15 20:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by rose s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been dating only 2 wks? Then unless you knew each other REAL well prior to dating, you do not love each other...there's not been time enough for that to develop...you barely know one another.
So you are breaking up because he worked all Tuesday night, so slept all day Wednesday and didn't speak with you? If that's all it takes to make you upset enough to break up then there's your proof you're not in love...
...love would be more forgiving of something so minor...love would've (on his part) wanted to at least called you or left you a message before he went to bed or after he got up yesterday...
Do what works for you...but don't confuse like with love, and don't break up with people just because they don't behave as you think they should...
2007-02-15 20:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't willing to make time for you, or even just to call especially on a hallmark holiday such as valentines day, then leave him. You need someone thats going to make the time for you, even if he did work all night. And if this is how its going to be after 2 weeks, imagine how its going tob e 2 months from now.. or 2 yrs from now. Trust is really important, and if you don't trust him now.. well, its lets just say its really really early on int he relationship to not be trusting.
2007-02-15 20:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by starsnmoons0101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in the first couple weeks of dating things are usually awkward and people are getting accustomed to the change so maybe he's dealing with that. i would say give it another week or two and if you still can't trust him definitely break it off because trust is the foundation of every relationship
2007-02-15 20:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Kristen V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cheated on you trust me i am a guy who use to play the fields until i lost someone who was very dear to me and i have learned from that. break up with him it's not worth it. do what you got to do to keep you from suffering heartache and pain dump the bum it was the 14th yesterday he should have done something i took a female who i have been seeing for a few weeks to a five star resturant. think about it. anyway happy belated valentines day babygirl. hit me on email and keep me informed
2007-02-15 20:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by thelement_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...it sounds like he was working. You have to ask yourself why you can't trust him. Do you have problems trusting other people? When you're with him, does it feel like he's true to you? The best suggestion I can give you is to talk with him about it and go with how you feel in that conversation. If it feels like he's full of it, he probably is. Nobody else can tell you weather to stay or go.
2007-02-15 20:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wud up girl!!!Me nuthin but chillin & livin 2 da FULLEST!!!I think U shuld wurk things out wit yo man IF U feel like he iz willin 2 do N-E-Thang to gain yo trust bak!!! If yall REALLY luv each otha it will wurk! Maybe he had a lot on his mind at the moment!And remember,Dont neva choose da 1 U like 4 da one U luv b/c da one U like will end up leavin U 4 da one dey luv!!!So if U luv him, stick wit him!
Sincerely,yo friend/problem solver,
Bubble Yum
2007-02-15 20:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Bubble Yum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all ppl like that are always cheating on u..but u should know if u really love him because hes ur boyfriend and try to trust him and if that doesnt work out u should break up with him..
2007-02-15 20:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by ♥TaNyA!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋