theres this guy. and well, things didnt work out between us. but every time i try too get over him i look in his eyes and think there could have been something there for me. it hurts when we look at eachother. give me some ways to get over him. ive tried liking some one else, avoiding him, and even pretending to dislike him a lot. How do i get him out of my mind?
2007-02-15 12:25:15 · 7 answers · asked by Trouble 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh girl, believe me when I say I know what you're going through! I've been through it in a bad way a couple of times before and am working through it again now.
The bad news is you'll never not be able to see what might have been. At least I can't and its been three years!
However, the desire and the obsession (completely healthy of course) do dampen out.
What really helped me is that the second guy was adamant that he wanted to just be my friend and although I didnt think I could be friends when I felt so strongly for him he basically didn't take know for an answer.
Three years later he is one of my closest friend and I think thats because we had that connection I felt - it just wasn't meant for anything more.
The best thing is that now I know him so well I understand what he wants, why it wasn't me and why it could never have worked out even if he did give it a chance (liked I wished so hard he would at the time). It doesn't stop me thinking about what could have been...only if he wasn't him! But because it doesn't make sense it doesn't hurt so bad.
Now I like another guy thats not interested and even though its difficult I am working hard to be friends with him and its helping. I'm also being a lot more level-headed, knowing the good friendship that awaits and the bad relationship that would have happened.
This will mess with you for a while but if you really like this guy make him a friend even if it feels a little more painful now.
Conversly, if you or he isn't interested in a friendship and he leaves your life competely - he'll be a distant memory in a few months (I don't even remeber the first ones' last name anymore!)
Hang in there and good luck!
2007-02-15 13:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by two_red_ribbons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of it depends on how long you went out with him. If you were with him for quite a while then it will be a long time before you get over him. You may not get over him. The best thing to do is to alway try and remember the good times. This will help with the sadness. I dated a guy a long time ago and I am still not over him. But you just have to remember that maybe down the road you two might just end up hooking up again. This time it may just work. But the best thing to do is to never let him see you are hurt about it all. Time to build you self confidence up and tell yourself that you are worth much more. You will see, But pretending to dislike him is not going to help you get overhim. You can't fight feeling, just go with the flow. It will get better, but only with time and confidence you can only give yourself.
2007-02-15 20:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by Amy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time
2007-02-15 20:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"pretending to dislike him" that means you still like him...of course that's why your going crazy. Anyway, should you want to really get rid of him in your thoughts, you MUST actually DISLIKE him.
He is not thinking of you. - let that be your mantra for three days.
Liking someone else won't help. Your "empty" how can you give liking to someone...so go love yourself, be re-filled with good things... make yourself feel good by being beautiful because YOU want to feel good about yourself, not for anybody.
2007-02-15 20:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by Beanie.beanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time, and stop looking in his eyes,,avoid him at all cost, think of all the others out there waiting to meet you, don t waste precious time lamenting, put on your big girl pants and move on
2007-02-15 20:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by nurseynursey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont look in his eyes it will take longer than 1 month.lol
2007-02-15 20:29:26 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could ask him out again?
if you think you cant do it, then you wont be able to
you need to use sheer will power
2007-02-15 20:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋